We are having a Jack and Jack in place of the traditional shower or stag. We have 5 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids in our wedding party. We have not asked them to help us with anything as of yet (our wedding is in may), but would like for them to help us out by purchasing some of our raffle prizes. I don't mean that they each have to go out and purchase $300 radios, or anything like that~ gift certificates, and things like that would be great. I haven't asked them to help us, my sister will probably suggest the idea. However *my question* is, are we required to *reimburse* them for the prizes they purchase? I've heard varying opinions, and would love to hear from someone who has done something similar. Help!
2007-03-09 11:31:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are hosting a party on yourselves then it is not appropriate to ask your wedding party members to help out. Even if your sister suggests it on your behalf, it still wouldn't be appropriate. When you decide to host your own party, you are responsible for all the costs that go along with it.
On the other hand, if a family member, friend, or member of your wedding party is hosting a party on your behalf then it is appropriate for the host(s) to ask the other wedding party members if they can contribute towards the party (helping bring food, gifts, set-up, etc.). Since their assistance would be voluntary, the host of the party would not be required to reimburse them for the prizes they purchase.
2007-03-09 12:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,
you are not suppose to reimburse the bridal party for any favours that they do for you to help in preparation of your weddding. my husband and i were recently married and we too had a stag and doe. one really good idea for money maker is a raffle for a bucket of booze. we had each person in our wedding party donate a 26 oz bottle of premium liquor or a 12 pack of premium beer. my parents donated a brand new cooler and we filled it right up. we held this draw off for the end of the night and charged $5/ticket, 3 for $10 or 7 for $20 - you wouldn't believe the amount of tickets we sold and the amount of profit we made, plus it kept people there right until the end. These were all donations form the bridal party. Some of the party also went out and got donations for our prize table. Keep in mind that you will give each member of the bridal party a gift thanking them for being a part of your day and for all of their help along the way. When someone agrees to be a part of your wedding, they are also anticipating all of the extras that go along with it. To reimburse people for helping you would be ridiculous. They all will have their days too and then it will be your chance to offer as much help as you can. Congratulations and good luck and I hoped this helped!
2007-03-12 13:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Cory S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I can answer your questions considering you lost me at the fact that you are paying for your own shower. I think that is innappropriate. A shower is mainly to "shower" the bride with gifts and is thrown by the mother or bridal party. The bride and groom should not come out and ask for gifts. Plus, if you are paying for the party, doesn't that defeat the purpose?? If you are throwing the party, and your bridal party does not offer to help, do not ask them. It's sounds pretty greedy if you ask me.
2007-03-09 14:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom are not to be involved in the planning of the bridal shower and should never host a gift giving event for themselves. You should be sitting back and waiting for someone in the bridal party to offer to host this party. They will decide the when, where and what and probably ask you to offer a suggested guest list. That's about the extent of your involvement, other than attending.
2007-03-09 13:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont forget to characteristic this one on your series, Jack and Jill went up the hill so jack could lick jill's fanny, jack have been given a ask your self And a mouthful of **** cos jill's a bloody tranny!
2016-09-30 11:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why you would have anything to do with your shower, are you throwing it for yourselves?
Usually the Bride (and in your case groom too) have nothing to do with their showers, the wedding party plans it all. You two should attend as the guests of honor, you have enough to worry about with wedding plans, you shouldnt be bothering with shower plans as well. So, no, you shouldnt be paying for anything that happens at your shower.
2007-03-09 11:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are they being expected to pay for their own dresses/tuxes? that is really the end of their financial responsiblity. Your maid of honor usually throws a bridal shower and the best man the bachelor party, but if you two are throwing your own party you should be expected to be responsible for all that will entail.
2007-03-09 11:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's the protocol:
You throw the party that you can afford. Their money is not part of your party budget. They are honoring you by participating (which in itself isn't cheap). Don't do this. If you can't handle "Jack and Jill" gifts in your budget, don't have them.
2007-03-09 11:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
while i agree with the first answerer- if you are paying for the clothing and the party, you can ask them to pitch in. this is less money than they would be spending anyway. but pitch it in a positive way- instead of saying " we're not making you pay for such and such" trying saying "we'd really appreciate your help in purchasing the raffle prizes since we wouldnt know what to get and it would really help us with the overall cost of the dresses. tuxedos and parties"
2007-03-09 11:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to your friends and openly tell them what the deal is...they should not have a problem with it and you should not have to reimburse them. I know that my bridemaids and groomsmen were trying to help as much as possible. But if you sit down and have a talk with them about the situtation, it should all be good.
2007-03-09 11:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋