Is cheating sex that much better.?

Answer 1

First you need to analyse the motivation for cheating. In your case, your wife cheated with her boss and you are trying to understand why.
Possibilities are that at the time she was feeling unfullfilled at home and only really appreciated at work. Home is just routine but work gives a challenge that made her feel like a human being rather than a wife and mother. She is shining at work and feels taken for granted at home so everything about work seems much more positive, including her boss, who is providing lots of praise and support for a valuable team member. Pretty soon, his approval becomes her big issue and she does not want to loose that so when he asks her to work late or prepare a report she jumps to it and gets good feedback. She is learning that doing what the boss wants gets approval and acceptance and that is very important to her at the time. The situation develops by mixing in flattering comments about the way she loks etc and now she is beginning to feel like a valuable human being and an attractive woman when she is at work and just a wife and mother at home. Her learnt behaviour is to get rewards emotionally by doing what her boss says so she follows that path because she sees the validation she is getting from work as more important than that she is getting from home. Eventually, what her boss suggests is one step too far but by this time she has learnt her operating principle and goes along with him. The sex may or may not have been good, it is really immaterial, because she wasn't looking for sex but for approval and appreciation.
Somewhere down the track she realises that what she is getting is shallow and not worth what it could cost her, maybe she realized that she was being used or that he had other agenda's, and she decided to stop it all and go back to being a wife and mother. By that time it was too late to undo what had been done and the only way to get back what she had was to lie. If I understand she lived with her guilt for 20 years before deciding that she had to tell you.

Answer 2

No because cheating is not appropriate. If you really care for the person you're with, why would you even want to cheat? Even though I know it happens, it doesn't make sense to me.

Answer 3

People cheat because they want better sex that why its better (common sense people).

Answer 4

Nah cheating is bad it only hurts both parties.. it is more the thrill of doing it and possibly getting caught.... not the act it's self

Answer 5

Only if sex with your main person doesn't satisfy you. In that case yes. It is so much better.

Answer 6

not sure how it feels..

maybe better may not...
depends...