Do non-adopted people have something against adopted people?

Question

I don't exactly know where to put this question...

I am adopted, and I am SOO happy that I have been and all. I'm so grateful and stuff, I have friends who don't care that I'm adopted or anything. I'm korean adopted into caucasian parents.

Though I have had a couple experiences of people who seem to not like me or something after they find out I'm adopted. Someone called me a freak or something recently and it made me wonder about this...

Answer 1

I am not sure how old you are, but it's an interesting question. I too am adopted and find that 99.9% of people that I tell I am adopted (which seems to eventually be everyone) are very curious and interested about it and how I feel about it etc.

I do remember once (seriously, only once in my entire life) in grade six a negative incident. A known bully in my class said to me that I was adopted because my birth mother didn't like me so she gave me away (or something like that).

I remember it because I've never had anyone say anything like that again, not because it was something I believed.

I realized that it was a major difference that existed between me and my peers. I also realized that what mean people do is try to make fun of people's differences.

I guess my point is, consider the source of these people... they obviously have some issues of their own to deal with if they have a problem with your adoption. They are certainly a minority with their thoughts.

Answer 2

Sorry you had this experience with people. My mother and all 6 of her brothers and sisters were adopted informally in the 40's when thier parents died. Her mother, sick with the TB that also killed her husband found homes for all of her children before she died. She was a small town, so everyone knew she was adoped and has told me about kids teasing her for being adopted. It was very hurtful but she now realizes that kids can be cruel and will use anything to hurt someone, for whatever reason.

With that history, I can't understand how a person will not like you for being adoped. But people dislike people for things which they have no control. I got teased as a kid for being black and wearing glasses. You had as much control as being adopted as I did having bad eyes and I dont have time for people that judge me for such things.

Answer 3

Trust me honey....they are the way they are anyhow....it has nothing to do with you being adopted....some people are just nasty pieces of shite who have trouble walking around with their heads shoved up their own assholes, They think they're all that & some.....funny really because they're the only ones that do think that.....everyone else thinks they're pathetic. In order for some to feel elevated they put others down....they don't need a reason, they'll use whatever they find.......water off a ducks back Babe.......just be happy you weren't adopted into their family.....

Your adoptive parents chose you out of many others......their parents had whatever was given to them....I reckon that makes you a little more special don't you?

Answer 4

Facing Reality

When it comes to adoptions, emotions run high. Extremes of love and gratitude are seen alongside bitterness and ingratitude. Edgar Wallace, for example, never forgave his mother for abandoning him, which is how he assessed her actions. She went to see him in the last year of her life, reluctantly seeking some financial assistance, but Edgar, affluent as he was by that time, brusquely turned her away. Soon after, when he learned that his mother would have been buried in a pauper’s grave but for the kindness of friends who paid for her funeral, he deeply regretted his insensitivity.

People considering adoption must be prepared to face realistically the problems and challenges that may arise. Children are not always grateful for what their parents—adoptive or biological—do for them, even in the best of circumstances. The Bible, in fact, speaks of individuals in our day as “having no natural affection” and being “unthankful” and “disloyal.”—2 Timothy 3:1-5.

On the other hand, opening your home—and your heart—to a child that needs parents can be a positive, enriching experience. Cathy, for instance, is deeply grateful to her adoptive parents for providing her with a Christian home and caring for her physical and spiritual needs.—See the box “It Worked for Us,” page 8.

When describing how they feel about their adopted sons and daughters, the parents of such children may well call to mind the words of the psalmist: “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a real blessing.”—Psalm 127:3, Today’s English Version.

Answer 5

Most people could care less if you are adopted. The fact that you are Korean with Caucasian parents is a dead give away.
The fact that you have met a couple of people who have a problem with it is not your problem, it is theirs. Since it is none of their business and they want to get upset about it, let them go jump in the lake or flush themselves down the toilet.

Answer 6

If they have a problem with you being adopted, it's their problem. Don't let the miserable people of the world pull you down or ruin your wonderful feelings about being adopted.
Maybe they feel envious of your happy relationship with your family.

Answer 7

No, non-adopted people don't have anything against adopted people, I have never heard of this and can't imagine why anyone would object. Whoever called you a freak clearly has major issues of their own, and it's about them, not you.

Answer 8

There are people in this world that will find any reason to hate others. Ignore those people, they won't add anything positive to your life anyway.
Personally speaking, I don't care if you are adopted or not.

Answer 9

If they do then they are idiots... who cares if you are adopted other then it is great that people out there cared enough to adopt someone that needed to be.

Answer 10

No, non-adopted people don't have a problem with adopted people at all. You just ran into an ******.