how many times do you put up with being kicked to the side? my girl has done it AGAIN to me. this time she was going to check to see if our friends were ready to go out to eat. well i asked her if she would be coming right back or staying for a bit, so i knew to either wait, or go kick-it until she was ready. she said coming right back....& of course it wasnt. left me hanging while waiting for her. the other time i went to her work b/c she wanted me to hang out with her, so i said sure. not even 10 mins there a co-worker asks her to go on a break with him, she gets up, grabs her coat, & out the door.... there are a couple more issues that has happened with that. i put the world on hold when im with her, yet with her, everyone else comes first, & then when no one needs her attention, she comes to me. like when she went away for a couple of days, i didnt talk to her b/c SHE was too busy. but when im gone, i take time out - lose sleep - etc. to talk with her. am i legit in my anger?
2007-03-09 11:18:07 · 7 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, this isn't fair and you are perfectly justified in being angry with her. What she's doing is sending signals that there are so many people in her life that are more important than you. Being in a relationship with someone that is thoughtless is difficult when the other half of the relationship (you) goes out of their way to be thoughtful.
As for what to do about it? Start by sitting down with her in a private place and letting her know what you see going on and that it upsets you. Let her know that in order for you to be happy in this relationship there are going to have to be some changes. Spending time with friends/coworkers and people outside of the relationship is important, but making the person you're seeing feeling as though they're on the back burner to everyone all the time isn't right.
I hope she just doesn't see what she's doing and things get better after you two talk it out. I wish you guys the best of luck!
2007-03-09 11:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Khael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like, you like her more than she likes you. This has a good chance of ending bad. If you're not getting what you feel you deserve, talk to her about it. If it doesn't change...LEAVE! You're only going to get your heart broken! I too have been in this situation. I look back and see what a fool I must of looked liked. I was young and I learned my lesson. Now, if I even smell the signs of something like this happening, I'm out like a light!! Know you can find better and I mean "know" you can!!!
2007-03-09 11:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave while you still have some self respect left. She is using you plain and simple and is showing you no respect at all. If she does not put you above her coworkers break time yeesh. Get out of there man.
I've been in a similar situation and promised myself that I wont allow that ever again.
2007-03-09 11:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to let her know what she's doing to you. Extend teh olive branch at first. but if it continues, then put your foot down. It can be alot like disciplining a kid. If they get used to getting away with a bad behaviour, they will continue unless they know you really mean business.
2007-03-09 11:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by girlsincamelot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to brake all ties with her , and only be friends . She has you for a fool .
2007-03-09 11:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are but people can't walk all over you unless you lie down first, she has no respect for you, get rid of her -you are wasting your time and your emotions, sorry,
2007-03-09 11:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be mad as hell. You should seriously consider just leaving her.
2007-03-09 11:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋