You love that person. Please advise. What would you do?
2007-03-09 11:10:33 · 27 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And I meant, if the person is not sure of marriage in general. Not particularly pertaining to 'you'.
2007-03-09 11:11:29 · update #1
That is a good question! And I think that most women would say yes, but in general, women think that they can change men ... thinking that if they dated, that he would realize that he loves her & would want to spend the rest of his life w/ her. Unfortunately, dating doesn't make the man realize that. The man has to see what he is missing in order to fully realize how much he cares for someone, and then decide whether that person is the one he wants to spend forever with. My suggestion to you is, that no matter how difficult it may be for you to say no, you have to let him live his life & figure it out (it being, you, dating, marriage, everything). Dating him might actually prolong the possibility of him wanting you forever. You've gotta love him in silence. Give him his space, and if he wants you, as much as you want him, he'll come to you, when he's "ready." This time "away" from him also allows you the time to do what you want in life. Take advantage of your "youth" (young or old) - do everything you can in the time you are single & enjoy life! Marriage should be something you both want (whoever you are with - not just this guy). Having a relationship with someone you love is a beautiful thing, but then you tend to forget about yourself, because it's about the other person ... you devote your time & attention to them. Devote this time to yourself. Cause once you're married, it's harder to do that.
2007-03-09 11:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by mrs sexy pants 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it rather is form of unusual, yet i'm uncertain this is loopy or something. If it have been a 23 twelve months previous guy and a 17 twelve months previous female we does not think of as lots of it. i'd choose that the teenager have been a minimum of 18. purely enable it run its direction, few 17 twelve months previous adult men certainly need to get married any time interior the close to destiny. in the event that they do, so what? in line with possibility it rather works, in all probability it would not, no massive deal the two way.
2016-12-18 09:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person has to measure what's more important to them this guy or marriage. If it's a girl who just wants to be with him and doesn't need a ring and a piece of paper then stay, but if this is a girl who truly values marriage and has been dreamin about her wedding since birth, this may not be the man for her, maybe take a break from him, maybe he'd change his mind, maybe she'll open the door for Mr. Right.
2007-03-17 11:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, because I don't see marriage as the only kind of commitment two people can make to each other. If you believe that marriage is the only way to show your love and commitment for each other, then yes, you should move on if they are not sure about marriage, but give it a chance first. Feelings can change.
2007-03-09 11:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could date a person without having any plans of marrying him in the future, yes. In fact, most people I dated I would not choose to marry - but it was fun nevertheless. However, if marriage was all I was after, I would not be wasting my time with someone who had no intention of getting married.
2007-03-09 11:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I wanted marriage then I would just have to either accept the fact that him and I wouldn't be married or dump him and risk the chance of NEVER finding a guy like that again for a dream.
2007-03-09 11:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Platinum Status 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was actually discussing this with a co-worker today. As long as I'm with someone who I love and who loves me back and we're happy. I don't see any reason why we would have to get married. Can't we live together forever without needing to get married, wouldn't we be happy enough, does having your name change on paper really make that much of a difference as to whether or not your going to be happy. If being with that person does not make you happy enough then it's time to find someone else. The couple can still get both their names on things such as the house, car, bank account. So I guess my point is any truely(emphasis on truely) happy couple has no reason to get married unless they just feel like spending moeny.
2007-03-09 11:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, of course... You never know what happens in the future, so its good to live the moment. But as life takes its road, things will be clear in the near future.. Until now just live the moment and have a great time.. Who knows life anything can happen... Good Luck
2007-03-09 11:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There it is again getting married, sit down and think and talk to your married friends and just forget all this marriage until he ask and says he can't spend his life without you and I want you to be my wife. Then he might turn out if you marry him to be the biggest con artist all times. 'I've seen men that is my family have a girl saying things to them about we need to get married and winking and laughing behind their back, the girl just eating it all up. I've seen my cousin call girls and tell baby I sure do love you I'm going marry you. Then turn around and you ask are you really going really marry her, they tell you s*** naw.
2007-03-09 11:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I am 38 and I want to get married. Why waste my time on someone who isn't willing to make a committment?
Also, if you are in this situation.......you have to decide how important marriage is to you.....if its important then dont let this guy that you love hold you back..........cuz they OBVIOUSLY DON'T love you cuz if they did.......they would want to spend the rest of their life with you.
2007-03-09 11:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋