She lives in Texas, you both live together in Illinois. She is married with children & has a jealous husband she's hiding the friendship with your man from. She sends your man a Zippo lighter with his initials engraved on one side & his lucky number on the other for Valentines Day. What do you think of this gesture? Figuring... $30 for the whole thing, was it too much for just a friend you've been talking to on a personal level for a month? He's never talked to her with you in the house. He told you about her, and her husband. You accept this gift, though you don't like it. He asked me to pick up lighter fluid for it, and I said, "You're not planning on bringing it out at the poker game! Are you?" He knows you don't want him to (people are going to be there who already know it's a gift from another girl for V-Day), he does any way, and uses it as his lucky charm on top of his poker hand all night. What's the proper reaction from me to this action? What would you think?
2007-03-09 11:09:03 · 16 answers · asked by lisalikes70scheese 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but friends of the opposite sex don't get each other Valentine's presents, especially when they're already in a relationship! Sounds like they're screwing to me. You're husband is trying to pull a fast one on you. Oh you already know about her, oh the husband knows too, oh she just happened to send me a Vday gift, oh I think i'll use that as my lucky charm. That is disrespect, plain and simple! How would he feel if you got chocolates and flowers from a man whose suppose to be just a "friend!" I bet he'd hemmorage a nerve! Trust your gut instinct, and don't let your husband disrespect you in front of your face and other company like that. Call it for what it is, he's cheating (emotionally & or physically) and you won't tolerate it anymore.
Here's what you do. Get homewrecker's telephone number, and tell her husband how kind of her to send your married man a Valentine's present. Because chances are, hubby doesn't know how friendly wifey is being with other folks men. Then let your husband know, he can either come clean with you or the divorce courts. Take your pick!
2007-03-09 11:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Bombay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amazing!!! simply amazing, I can't believe people have such cynisism and think they can get away with stuff like this, it's a big lack of respect, I think you have a lot to think about. What if the shoe was on the other foot, it's a two way street, therefore, it's all on you, this man has gone beyond. He should've never accepted gift from a married woman, this is wrong, you should've sent it back with a note to her husband, you don't mention how they met, or if it's an internet type of thing. nevertheless this goes above and beyond, this is the mistake so many women make, they make it easy for men to disrespect them in such a way, or in any way is wrong for that matter. I personally don't believe in living together with someone, if I'm going to live with someone it's because the love & respect are there and are mutual, therefore this man I end up with would be my husband and will give me my place. Otherwise it tends to be this way, the man has no comittment, no responsibility, (no sweat) and it would never work for me, (that's just my personal opinion, sorry, but I'm telling you the truth. And he has some nerve to tell you to pick up some lighter fluid, how dare he, but it seems that you've let it go this far, how do you stop it now, well, I'm sure you know the answer to that. Valentine's day huh? Wow!! the last part of your question says a lot, I find it hard to believe you ask what is the proper reaction you must have. I think you know the answer to that one.
2016-03-28 22:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Niketa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'm going to assume,that this is his "now-married-with-children ex-girlfriend. Did she include a card with the gift?. Valentine's Day gifts are only given to those you love or care about. (Need I say more?)
I'll bet HER husband does'nt know about YOUR husband. Because she lives in Texas,how can he prove to you,that she's married?.
Not only does your husband want to keep the gift,but he's making you look bad,by flaunting it in front of his friends. It appears to them,that you are allowing your husband to have long-distance relationships with other women. They don't have to know where the gift came from.
(This is what I would do!)
I would wait a few months,to make my husband think,that the lighter,(and his friend) are: "Out of sight-Out of mind". Then I would send it back to her,with a note asking her if It would be OK for you to send HER husband a "G-String"? (lol)
2007-03-09 11:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This whole thing is wrong on so many levels. When did your boyfriend forget he is living with you or that he shouldn't be accepting gifts from any woman on valentines day. Especially a married one. The proper reaction from you would be to kick his sorry a** to the curb.
2007-03-16 20:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh well I probably wouldn't really tolerate that, ask him how he'd feel if you got a present from someone like that and made it seem special to you.
I personally don't think it's appropriate for a married woman to buy a Valentine's Day gift for someone else's partner.
To be honest he probably doesn't see it as a "gift from her" more like just a gift he recieved and has.
2007-03-09 11:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by x-adorkable 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking you already know the answer to this one. Your gut is telling you something about this is fishy and I agree with you. Your man's first obligation is to you and YOUR feelings, not a married woman living in another state. It might be time to consider couples counseling
2007-03-17 11:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by embi40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be f'n furious! A valentines gift of any kind from another woman is bad news. If it were me, I'd take that lighter and shove it up my husband's as*. Then I'd scream at him for a long time and scream at the tramp who sent it to him. Then I'd tell him if he wants to stay married then he is not to have any further contact with that ho.
2007-03-09 11:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he is reacting to this gift in an inappropriate manner considering he is in a relationship with you, and this was a gift on Lovers day from another woman. In this case, I'm siding with you - and you may tell him that another man says he is being insensitive to your feelings if he doesn't see the inappropriateness of this.
2007-03-09 11:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is digging this other woman and the first chance he gets if he gets one he will sleep with her. Don't get me wrong he probably loves you but he wants his cake and ice cream too. If it bothers you and he won't stop then he is not the person for you. Don't let him string you along with that crap. It's all a game for him and he will only do what you allow him to do to you.
2007-03-09 11:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by vallanita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this woman is out to get your man. valintines day are for lovers and this is a gesture u better not let slide. speak to him about it.
2007-03-17 11:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋