I’m graduating high school this year. I have had a lot of really bad experiences that I would like to forget. My question is…I’m curious to know if the way I am acting is normal because I’m a bit concerned for myself. I know that might sound strange but…I’ve pretty much cut off communication with a lot of my friends. The only people I really talk to now are my friends that are going to be attending the same college as me. Sadly enough many of them don’t attend the same high school as me. I’ve deleted a lot of friend’s phone numbers because I feel if my friends want to see me they will call me. I don’t know why I am acting the way I am it’s really unintentional but I’m curious to know if this is a normal thing that everyone goes through just cutting off communication with friends and not talking to them.
2007-03-09 10:59:38 · 16 answers · asked by LiL Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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A reason I have cut off ties with my one friend is because I feel she has issues. She comes over to my house eats whatever she pleases without asking and takes whatever she pleases without asking. She has made my family make her separate meals because she doesn’t like what they cooked. She has even urinated in my shower! (no lie) And the main reason is because she gets angry easily. She has kicked me on numerous different occasions and recently punched me in the face because I made a comment towards her that offended her. I really felt a lot of sympathy for her at one time. People treated her badly. But now I'm not sure anymore. I'm not sure if the reason I'm not associating with her is because so many people have problems with her OR if it's just because I've realized on my own the issues that she really does have.
2007-03-09 11:00:10 · update #1
Another friend i have recently cut off ties with i feel i did for the right reason. She had two big house parties and refused to invite me. She told me straight to my face she would not invite me because a few of her friends "hated me" and she didn't want them not to show up so she felt it would be better for me and her just to hang out separate then invite me to her party. I'm sorry 2 of her parties. She has done this every year she has one big party since 7th grade and she has been doing this to me every year refusing to invite me because she's afraid of what other people will think of her. She's so nice to me when it's just her and I or her and MY FRIENDS but when she see's me around and she's with other people she totally ignores me
2007-03-09 11:00:38 · update #2
Your doing the right thing.
Let it go and hope you have more fun at college!!
2007-03-09 11:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through, i am also graduating from highschool this year and it is hard. i know how you feel, you will soon be moving on and will no longer see more than half the people in school now, but i think you shouldnt totally cut off communication with everyone. i see why you would cut off communication with those 2 friends of yours. the first person that you talked about seems sort of self centered and reallly you dont need people like that in your life so if i were you i would tell her to change her ways and if she still continues to act that way, then just tell her that you're sorry but you no longer want to see her.
The second person seems to care too much about what others think. if she was really your friend then she wouldnt be doing that to you. be honest with her and tell her how you feel and if she still doesnt understand then just move on and forget about her, hang out with the other friends u said u have.
and about school. dont cut off communication with EVERYONE just because a few people are mistreating you. this is your last year, make the most of it. dont let anyone put u down and make you feel bad. iif someone doesnt like you or hates you, who cares? you dont need people like that in your life; stay away from them. well anyway good luck i hope u do what u think is right/good for you
2007-03-09 19:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very very young. You really will find out as you get older that all this "friend " issues are that YOU are still maturing. You have to realize that your only experiences in life have been the comfortable protected surroundings of high school and getting to live at home with mom and dad.
I woudl venture to guess that you're about 17 years old. You will find that the next twenty years will buzz by so fast you won't believe it when you're 37 and you have kids, and you've finished college. You'll probably get a graduate degree and get married and have children.In those years, and they will go fast, you will realize that the MOST important thing you should have been forcusing on was YOU. You are the most important thing in YOUR life. Focus on yourself and not on other people. Make your future the most important thing in your life. Don't worry about "Friends" they can all go to Hell as far as you should be concerned. If you have a person who hits you, then you should drop that friend like a pile of rocks. If you have a friend that won't invite you to her stupid parties, then she can go stick it up her "you-know-what" !!! I think that you are acting very codependent about your friends when you should be doing things that will make your next 20 years, which buzz by fast, make them pleasant. You need to design your life such that the next Four Years at College are really really good years for you. Don't, I mean Do NOT smoke pot and do stupid crap that will ruin your GPA. Having a High College GPA is a nice braging right! I know, because I have a good GPA and I love to see prospective empolyers duing job interviews light up when I tell them I graduated Magna C um Laude. Don't let people tell you that GPA isn't important, that's usually those who have 2.5 GPA upon graduating. Also having a high GPA has a great impact on you getting into Graduate school.
So, to hell with thos dumb ASSparaguses you call friends, Like I said, focus on yourself only!! Get a high GPA in college, get into sports and stay healthy during college. Kiss your dumb high school morons goodbye and take good care of yourself.
High School is great while you're in it, but you realize once it's all over, that it was a short little spit in the wind that really doesn't have much importance.
2007-03-09 19:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by BIGDAWG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first, I was a bit concerned for you too - sounded like you were pretty down - but given your descriptions of these two "friends", it sounds like you're making a positive change. Friends change throughout life, sometimes even year to year, and sometimes you lose track of even the best friends when they move away, etc. And since everyone's about to move away, you're just speeding up the process by a few months. Keep in mind, when you go to college, you start with a clean slate - socially, it can be a really, really exciting time. So 'til then, follow your instincts and hang with the people who bring out your best and who make you feel better, not those who try to bring you down and make you feel bad. Maybe you don't see those old "friends" again...maybe they eventually grow up and start treating you better. Either way, you're better off than you were when you were taking their ****. Hope that helps.
2007-03-09 19:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by single_guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I feel like you are doing the right thing, it is great to want to help people when they are in trouble(#1) but them taking advantage of your good will is another. Sounds like #2 wasnt your friend for the right reasons. Trust me in life it is better to have 1 best friend than 20 that will stab you in the back in a heart beat. If you feel the people you are around are affecting you negativly then YOU SHOULD NEVER REGRET not talking to them. Yeah I went through the same thing when leaving high school, my true friends kept in touch and as far as the others just like you said if you call them and they dont have time or dont call you back then what is the use?? Just keep your head in the right direction and your heart will let you know the right things to do . Good Luck in college
2007-03-09 19:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by charityislove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have some crappy friends. Maybe your folllowing your gut feelings on these sort of people. If your graduating soon why worry. You will make new friends and yes keep some of your old friends but really we all have to move on. I think deep down you know you have to do this because in the summer you will be moving on to better things. Don't worry about it, be happy, have fun and enjoy the last year of high school. You'll never get these years back and you'll regret not enjoying every minute. Best of wishes, keep your head up and enjoy it. PEACE
2007-03-09 19:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are doing the right thing to me. Your life is about to change and most of those people you will never see again. You need to focus on your future and not those so called friends at school. Enjoy the true friends that you have and go on with your life. You get back at those people by becoming successful in life and having the best career possible for you.
2007-03-09 19:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by vallanita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's normal. I graduated about a year ago and I barely talk to anyone that I went to highschool. Once you move on to a new part of your life then you do just forget about some of youre friends cause your making new ones. But if you have any really good friends you should keep them cause good friends are hard to find.
2007-03-09 19:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by mmmhmmm_oic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal.
You see you are growing, and a lot of problems come along.
When you finish high school every one takes its own direction, and you think that if you call them you will bother them.
I say it is a normal process...but try not to avoid all your friends...only those who take your energy...cuz later you might need them.
Just be patient, you will have friends and withthose you will share the same interests...cuz you don't have common goales withthe ones from high school don't you think.
2007-03-09 19:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are growing up and do not want to be a doormat any longer. You go girl! Put high school behind you and move on up. Choose thought full, intelligent, and serious friends in college and you will go far.
Many many high achievers had a lousy time in high school. The prom queen usually ends up married to the jock, who knocks her up and expects her to serve him his beer on the couch while he tells her how he put a roof over head and she should be grateful.
Many actors, models, and academic geniuses had lousy high school times.
2007-03-09 19:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by crct2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking the reason your so called friend didn't invite you to the parties is because you just go on and on and on and on and on you get the point? Your very immature, are you sure your not graduating elementary school?
2007-03-09 19:09:14 · answer #11 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋