How do i deal with my mother-in-law?

Question

My mother-in-law is a manipulative, lying, bossy cow. She comes into our lives and causes trouble. When someone tells her off she pulls out of our lives, making out she is the victim. When all has calmed down she comes back into our lives again, makes trouble them disapears. I have tried continously to get her out for good, but she keeps coming back whether u like it or not. My husband has even told her to get/butt out. She has called the police on us many of times saying we wont let her see her grandkids, she tells me one thing and my husband another, when we confront her she makes up another totally different story and calls us liars.
What can i do? should i take out an intervention order?

Answer 1

Who is letting her in the door? One of you is. So maybe you need to discuss which is more important, being polite and letting her in or your sanity.

Answer 2

Sounds like my mother-in-law. For some reason some women have a problem with sharing their son with another woman, although he is an adult and ties should be cut. My husband eventually called his mother (a personal confrontation would have ended in disaster) and told her that she is no longer part of our lives. After a few months of not seing her, we moved away and haven't seen her for a year and a half. That's how it has to be unless she changes her actions and decides family is more important then being selfish. Best wishes.

Answer 3

You & your spouse need to sit down and draw the boundary lines. Work it out
between what you will or will not allow. Then sit your mother-in-law down and tell her what the boundaries are. If she is unwilling to co-operate, then less time spent with her is important. Is this causing pressure on your home life? Your spouse comes first--not your mother-in-law. Reinforce that with your mother-in-law. You and your spouse need to stand as a united force. If she doesn't abide by it, you may have no alternative but to cut the ties. Stand firm, stand fast and let her know that you mean business. In Genesis 2:24 it says, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Answer 4

I too have the mother in law from hell, What I suggest is set
boundaries , do not allow her to cross the line, your husband
must stand with you on what it is that you and he want concerning your family, you confront her together when she has caused confusion and chaos and make her stick to the facts , she should not be allowed to your home unless you and your husband are their and the kids visits are to be supervised. good luck!!!

Answer 5

if your husband feels the same, you, together, need to figure something out. she can't be allowed to have control like that in your marriage and with your kids. there is no law saying that a grandmother has to be able to see her grandchildren, those are your kids and you decide what's best for them. i would take out an intervention order AND move out of state

Answer 6

Your husband needs to take care of this. If you do it, she will see only that you are an intefering, ungrateful gal who stole her son away from her.

Your husband needs to tell her that she will have to shape up and behave herself, or expect to never see him and his family again. And let her know he means it.

(That was the only thing that worked on my MIL. The threat of losing son and grandkids is a serious threat to a woman.)

Answer 7

This is the part you refused to acknowlege when you said "yes I will marry you".

Fact is your mother in law was like this before, you knew it and yet you still wanted to get married. Well sorry girl, but it's part of the package. Should have thought about that before you said "yes".

Answer 8

Keep that door locked. She can't come in unless she's invited.

Answer 9

Make your husband handle her that's his job too!

Answer 10

Hire an assassin and just take that lady OUT!!! just kiddin