okay, so my story goes like this: i hav likd a guy for about a a yr and after we both broke off relationships with no intentions of going out w/eachother, he finally asked me out but now we BARELY ever talk and on top of it my guy bff claims he is basically in love with me and i like him and dont want to lose him as a friend and im just so confused! i want more than anything to be w/the guy who askd me out just the other day and want it to work out but ther is one mor problem, his bff is also my ex, and it ended pretty badly, and sometimes we get along while other we dont, and so i understand the bros b4 hos thing, but i still think he should pay just a lil attention to me, but maybe im wrong, iv been broken up w/his bff for about two mos. and i think thats long enuf...i dont know how to handle this, please i desperately need some advice..please?
2007-03-09 10:44:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well isn't love a funny thing? I've always heard of "marrying your best friend" and if the guy is your "bff" then you should probably give him another chance at being his girl. Relationships don't work if you don't communicate your problems, its even worse when the problem is the lack of communication. I think your just hanging on to your current boyfriend because "he's what you always wanted", and your starting to figure that out. Do you love your bff back? the whole "bros before hoes" thing is great but the guy your going out with now might be going out with you because his bff doesn't want anyone to be with you. His bff has allowed you current boyfriend to go out with you so no one else can. Look at who he spends more time with, you or his best friend. Think about this, what would you rather have? your bf forever or a boyfriend who doesn't talk to you. As it looks now, your bff is starting to leave "sometimes we get along while other we dont". Make a choice before it's too late! Don't stress though.
2007-03-09 11:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by king cody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to back down from the dating game and figure this out before you step back in. If you try to start something with a guy while you have a boyfriend, things will get ugly. So either take it one guy at a time or put the whole thing on hold for a bit.
2007-03-09 18:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so if I'm understanding this correctly, you just broke up with this guy and his best friend now wants to date you... the bros before hoes thing is garbage, and if he likes you than he'll go after you. That should be enough to let you know that he is willing to give up his best friend for you and you should definately date him. I know you don't want to lose your ex as a friend cause I'm in a similar situation, but your worrying way to much about this as it is and you just need to let it work itself out cause either way someones gonna get hurt... just try not to let it be you.
2007-03-09 18:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by gooeypringles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a different group of guys. If you date him, ur ex will hate both of u and make it miserable and ur new bf will resent you because you tore up their friendship. My friend did that to me with an exgf and we didnt talk for 2 years even though the relationship for him and her only lasted like 6 months.
2007-03-09 18:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda understand...if this is so confusing now...imagine how it will be if you date your ex's BFF...lets just say bad, a similar surcumstance happened to me and i lost a couple of my guy friends. It hurt and i had to work hard to get them back. Do what your heart tells you and don't forget your loved ones!
2007-03-09 18:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by Alliecatxox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o k lets see.....you can go out with the guy that you wanted to go out with and explain to your bff that you are only friends with him, you still love him (as a best friend), but you don[t plan on having any romantic relationships with him or anything. it is alright that your actual bf(the one you want to go out with) doesn't like one of your friends, or isn't liked by your friends. trust me, thats where i am now, unexpextingly. but i deal with it and focus on keeping my bf happy, then i know everything would be alright.
2007-03-09 18:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u like the guy and you both get on reli well why not og for it frl, its bin long enuf since ur last relationship, so trust me go for it, its worth a try to see how things go, ya neva no it cud last foreva huni!!!!! gud luck chick xxx
2007-03-09 18:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you help me out with what a bff is?
2007-03-09 18:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋