I have a younger brother who is 26 and he drinks pretty much everyday. And on the weekends he tends to get drunk most of the time. I have told him several times he should calm his drinking but he doesn't listen and he does not realize that he has turned into a drunk. I have no idea how to help him.
Any Ideas?
2007-03-09 10:12:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If this appears to as a serious problem then I would get his friends and other family memebrs together for an intervention
you telling him he will just deny it but if a number of people tell him they feel he has a problem and needs some help he may just consider that he has a drinking problem.
INTERVENTION TIME!
2007-03-09 10:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some suggestions but most of it requires you to take the action.
1. Find a local Alon meeting attend one
2. Call AA and find out where there is a local meeting at and one that is open. In a open meeting you are allowed to attend and observe.
3. Put pamphlets about AA in places that he can find them with out having to place them in his hands.
4. Take him to an AA room willing just to check it out Friends of Bill W have this saying we can't make you want to stop drinking and We can't make you stop but we can ruin your drinking if you attend a meeting.
5. Last of all you need to realize that your brother getting sober is not your responsibility all you can do is love him and a lot of times that means loving him enough to let him go until he decides he can no longer live that type of life.
Good luck
2007-03-09 10:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, hon, any more than any wife can for an alcoholic husband. Unless your brother realizes he has a problem, he will quite comfortable continue to drink. Unless/until he himself realizes he has a problem, and joins AA, kiss your brother good-bye, or acdept the fact that he has an addiction over which you and if he is married, his wife, will never have any control. Alcohol is a powerful relationship, and few give it up.... the failure rate even for AA is huge, hon. Sorry.
2007-03-09 10:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Only he can help himself. But for that to happen, he has to realize that he has a problem and he has to want help. Until that happens, your hands are tied. The only thing you can do is talk to him one more time, preferably when he is sober, and tell him that you are no longer prepared to watch him drink himself to death. Then cut off or severely limit your time with him. Maybe if he realizes that his drinking is costing him his loved ones, he'll wake up. But don't count on it. More than likely, like most drunks, he'll have to hit rock bottom before he'll take action.
2007-03-09 10:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sorry, he does have a problem...Everyday! The only way to help him is to get family intervention...talk talk talk..just keep telling him that what he is doing is hurting his health and the emotional well being of those that love him..Usually an alcoholic can't and will not recognize their problem...There are drugs available now through a doctor that can/will decrease the "need"/physical aspect to take that drink .. Psycologists I don't think are that great..just from a logical aspect...He needs his family to intervene..........Good Luck.
2007-03-09 10:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't save someone from themself. Have you ever heard of an intervention? Get everyone who cares about him together, (when he's sober), and just state facts, not feelings. The goal is for him to realize that he needs help, for only then will help work. He has to admit that he is powerless over alcohol. Until then though, there is help available for you and your family. Alanon is for the loved ones of alcoholics. They are there to help you with how is drinking is affecting you. It's a family disease, meaning it effects everone, not just the person who is drinking. Look for an alanon number in your phone book. It does help. As far as your brother goes, he has to hit rock bottom. That means you, and anyone else who is helping him, (or enabling as its known), has to back off. You have to love him enough to let him fail. Only then can he hit bottom, and believe he will. He has to realize that he can only be helped once he begins to help himself. It's not an easy road you are going to go down, but can be well worth it in the end. I wish you luck, your in my prayers.
2007-03-09 13:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by anncinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother drinks as you have said then his drinking has probably already caused problems for him. Fights out at bars, problems showing up to work on time, poor relationships with those he dates or has a long-term relationship with, DUI's, etc...He probably is aware that he gets in trouble or has issues arise when he drinks but odds are he will not admit to you or anyone else that his drinking is a problem until he admits that to himself. If you are not experienced in dealing with alcoholics or problem drinkers then you may want to go to Al-Anon which is designed for people just like you and can offer you education on how to help your brother. Here is a website to get you started. Your brother is fortunate you care-good luck.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
2007-03-09 10:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by wif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a difficult task. They will often deny their addiction to alcohol, and claim that they can stop drinking anytime they wish. You may want to try talking to him that alcohol is an addictive substance, and that it would be good if could find a AA meeting in his area to attend and get himself detached from his drinking habit. If you have other family members or friends that would bring it to his attention, perhaps he will listen. Best of luck.
2007-03-09 10:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u have to realize he is drinking because he is not happy. Plus beleive me he knows how much he is drinking. He is just not going to admit it to u.I don't know his circumstances so I can't help anymore. I don't know if he is single,married,or what is going on in his life to know what could work on helping him.Good luck anyway.From a x user. You can do the AA thing but if he isn't ready which he sounds like he isn't.Then it will not do any good.
2007-03-09 10:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of what is being said is true however, I would suggest you head for an al-anon meeting it is for people who have people in their life who may drink to much.You will find people who can help and understand your worries.Alcoholism is a family disease since the effects of alcohol and its behavior are having an effect on everyone close to your brother. Did you know the y have found a gene which makes alcoholism run in families. please go to a meeting it will make you feel better!!!!
2007-03-09 10:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋