2007-03-09 09:51:26 · 20 answers · asked by purplegal 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
that is a hard question. sometimes you become one before you are, but you learn how to be one.
i don't think you really 'become' ready as much as you just learn how to be a mom through experience.
there is a desire that you feel when you WANT kids..but as i said, being ready is about learning. i don't think one CAN be ready for parenthood..it's just something you experience as it unfolds.
2007-03-09 09:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty much up to you. Some moms are never ready and continue not to be ready all the way up until the birth of their first baby. I was that way. However, I am only 19. I didn't want to have a child until I was atleast 25, but things happen, and I wasn't sure I was ready until the day I went into labor. Some moms, like me, fear that they are too immature, and irresponsible, and want their freedom too much to be a mother. But I tell you from experience, the day you give birth whether you are ready for it or not, is the day you become ready. Seeing your child for the first time, makes you ready to be a mom. It's definitely something magical.
2007-03-09 09:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by kaiyas_mom07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becoming a mother is really a major life event. You want to be absolutely positive that you are ready to stay home and take care of a baby. Are you ready for sleepless nights? For nights walking the floor with a crying baby? For staying home when your friends have all gone out?
Beyond that, are you financially stable enough so that you can afford to stay home for a while, and let your husband support you and baby both?
I did it at 20, and now I think I was ALMOST ready then.
2007-03-09 09:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a very personal choice that depends on a lot of factors. Circumstances, relationship, financial matters etc.. I'm 19 and 2 months pregnant. I know there will be people who judge me but thats upto them. My fiance and I both know er are ready because we're in love, have good jobs, money and things to offer the baby. Thats when the time is right I think :) x
2007-03-09 23:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by jellybean55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different for all of us. Make sure you want to be a mum for the right reasons before you get pregnant. If you are already expecting and worried about how you will feel when the baby arrives don't. It is a natural feeling of total love when your baby is placed in your arms for the first time. If you find it hard to cope though don't struggle on alone. There are many places and people who can help through those first difficult months. Finding things hard is nothing to be ashamed of. All mums struggle at some point. x x
2007-03-09 23:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by picklexxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was ready to have a child at 29. At that age i had sorted out & healed the pain of my own childhood. So i know i wouldn't be passing on my negative childhood on to my child. My husband & i have been trying for 8 months now for a baby. Fingers cross & hopfully we will be bless with a baby soon.
2007-03-11 10:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by meko76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a stable and loving relationship, and both people are mature, emotionally ready, financially ready, and physically ready to take on the responsibilities of a child.
2007-03-09 09:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have every aspect of your life sorted before you have a child.
It is important to be healthy and happy as an individual (so you can be strong for your baby), be in a stable & loving relationship and to have your finances sorted.
You will know if you're ready when you feel as though you really want one, as long as it's for the right reasons.
2007-03-10 22:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking for myself I knew that I was ready because I was at the right age 21 years old and I thought about all the responsibility of having a child and I was ready to take on that challenge..
2007-03-09 09:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 32 and had a baby 3 weeks ago - he was planned but took 4 years to concieve. I tried for years and still had doubts about whether i was ready to give up my selfish lifestyle.
when you are prepared to sacrifice the selfish part of yourself i guess you are ready. once they arrive your life is changed forever - my son is beautiful. i dont think its a decision people should make lightly as they are a lot of responsibility.
2007-03-09 16:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im 7 months gone now...n im STILL waiting to feel like im ready. when i'm with other ppl's kids tho (like family etc) i just kno i am cuz the babies start crying n im right there (if mother/father is otherwise busy) feeding 'em, changin nappies, huggin 'em or playing wiv 'em. just when im on me tod im thinking "sh1t...so not ready 2 b a mum anytime soon!!" i'm 20, hardly done the pubbing n clubbing thing purely cuz its not really my scean, but i can't help feeling that if i wasn't looking like i was about 2 giv birth 2 an elephant then it wuld...duno...prob just me being a weirdo. dnt get me wrong i dnt regret getting pregnant (just regret who to), just i kno theres so many things now i will not b able 2 do...plus anythings making me cry @ d mo n everytime i c me mum i cnt help but think "well....cnt exactly pretend im a virgin still" pretended i was until the day i told her!!! lolol...dat i was pregnant i mean...lol
2007-03-09 10:47:20 · answer #11 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋