My younger brother is 23 and he has had this girlfriend for about 3 years. They live together and recently had a baby. They are always fighting with each other. it is a very bad situation. The police have even been called before. She has no respect for our family at all.
Recently my mother was over visiting the baby with my brother and when the girlfriend came home she came in the door cussing at my brother and completely ignored my mom when she said hello to her. The girlfriend went in the other room and never spoke a word the whole time. I think this was very rude to treat my mom like garbage. I wish i could fully explain how horrible she has been to us.
We have always tried to hold our opinions of her to our selves because we didn't want to push my brother away. Now that a baby is involved we are tired of being nice to someone that doesn't deserve that respect. I would like to sit her down and give her a piece of my mind. Do you think I should lay it all out like it is?
2007-03-09 09:45:34 · 14 answers · asked by iluvgermanshepards 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If i was you i would sit her down and talk to her. She shouldn't be acting like that regardless if she mad or what. She doing that to be a real b*#!( and its not fair to you or your mother that you got to respect her when she don't deserve it. I got the same thing going on in my family to. She act the same way. You could look her dead in the face and say hey and she want say a word. So if i was you put her in her place because your brother is not. And its sad that a baby is going to be involved. And you are right to put her in her place. That's not going to push your brother away. And if you keep allowing her to be a "witch" to you and your family she gonna keep doing it. So good luck and i wish you the best in confronting the "wicked witch from the east" GOOD LUCK :)
2007-03-10 15:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥ H☮TMAMA ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was going to say be glad she's only a g/f & not part of your family, but it sounds like she is part of your family since they have a baby together. If you give her a piece of your mind, you risk alienating yourself from your nephew/neice & your brother. The only things you can do are:
1) talk to your brother about it & see how he feels about the situation w/your family. Perhaps he can bring the baby around without her.
2) treat her like you'd treat a casual acquaintance; with courtesy but not over-friendly
3) try to understand what her problem is & befriend her (not sure this is an option in your case).
Anyway, she will be part of the baby's life forever & unfortunately you can't tell her exactly what you think of her.
Best of luck to you!
2007-03-09 09:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by sweet pea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you i think that the best thing to do would be to keep your opinion to yourselves or risk losing your brother, shes his baby's mother, im sure that you dont like the way things between THEM are, but it is between them, just stay out of it or risk losing seeing your brother and your little nephew or neice, no matter how things are, sometimes though you only see the bad, and you are not there when they make up, the door does swing both ways, so just dont push blame in one direction, sometimes we're blinded by blood and only see what outsiders do, rather than what fmaily does, maybe just ask for him to not bring her around as much, or you could opt to not be around either. good luck and remember if things with your love life were this way the last thing you would want is your family involved, dont make him choose or put him in that situation, its not fair, and it will not help.
2007-03-09 10:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may think you know what is going on over there, but unless you live there, you don't REALLY know. Maybe she had told your bro to make sure no one was there when she came home so she can relax. Maybe your mom spends too much time over there. maybe she feels like everyone is intruding on her relationship. If she just had a baby, she is adjusting to a LOT of things and still has hormonal/physical issues she is dealing with. Sounds like you guys are really over invovled and in their business. There is something you are forgetting: If he didn't like it, he'd leave and it has NOTHING to do with the baby.
2007-03-09 23:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her every part of my mind she has no right to treat YOUR MOM like that. But now since she has his baby I think she will b around 4 awhile a long while....
2007-03-09 09:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by simplypeachy06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, but I doubt it would change anything. This person sounds like she was brought up without any manners. Why your brother would choose to not only spend three years of his life with someone like that, but also have a child with her is beyond me. But it's too late to do anything about that now. This girl is always going to be your niece's/nephew's mother, and as long as you want to have a relationship with that niece/nephew, you will have to accept his/her mother. It's a package deal.
2007-03-09 09:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You wont get peace if you deal with it by being rude as well.Try to play politics by.Invade her silence. .talk it over with her and see. I guess she is having some problems with your brother that she is behaving that way towards his family. If she turns out unwilling to settle amicably then deal with your brother. He needs to be aware and hopefully he can help. otherwise give her her dose by ignoring her presence similarly. Who cares.
2007-03-09 10:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by CYRILLE102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your brother first to see how he feels about her cause u may risk loosing your brother.
2007-03-09 09:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to GET LOST! My gosh! She sounds AWFUL! That is no way to act!!! My opinion is she probably won't be able to take care of that baby. Geez, tell her to stop that! Now that she's a mom, she can't be so, AWFUL!
Good Luck!!!!!
2007-03-09 09:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well here is some advice for you to take some serious action:
2007-03-09 10:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by Erik W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋