I know what im doing is wrong but why cant i stop. ive been going through my boyfriends things and when im half way through it i stop. i keep thinking back and forth that he is cheating on me but the thing is i never find anything so im assuming im wrong but he has cheated on me before. i dont want to be like this and i start problems between us because im always saying things to him that are assumtions of him cheating. i love him to death and im pretty sure he loves me because he woulda left already but how can i fix what the hell ive driven into my mind. any mature help will be strongly appreciated
2007-03-09 09:26:11 · 5 answers · asked by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know it may be hard to fully trust him again because of what he did, but how long ago was it that you Know he cheated on you. think about how long it's been, and how many times you've snooped and not found anything. going through his things is only going to hurt your relationship. i used to do the same thing, and i didn't have any proof or past cheatings to go off of. just go out by yourself sometime so you can have some alone time to think about this.
just sit down some night and think about how Fabulous he is.. write down on a paper all the reasons there's no way he Could be cheating on you. any time you get suspicious, get out that list instead of going through his things.
then maybe sit down and talk to him. it may be hard, but if it's bothering you you should get it off your chest... start off by saying something like "This has been bothering me. I know it shouldn't be, I'm sorry, but I just need your reassurance." if he loves you, he'll understand...
there's no sure way to know if he is, but you've just got to trust him, and if God forbid he does it again, Don't give him another chance. i'm all for second chances, but not thirds....
Good luck, hope this helps
2007-03-09 09:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in trouble. You don't trust him!! I'm not sure if a relationship can truly work without trust. I know you got your reasons, but if you want the relationship from here on to be healthy, you have to trust him. If you don't, you just might end up driving yourself crazy! Not literally, but you know what I mean. If your going to stay with him, you have to stop going through his things. I can see that is going to be pretty hard at this point, but you have to stop! You may need a break for awhile.
2007-03-09 09:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop or he will leave you. He will look for a women that does trust him and will not accuse him of cheating. The only the way to fix it is by stopping what you are doing.
2007-03-09 09:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anakin Skywalker 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might have something to do with the image you have of yourself. Or even the amount of time you have together.
Are you content with what this man brings to you in his person?
Can you squelch the small voice inside long enough to just Stop yourself from speaking or Cross examining him long enough to Bask in his presence?
2007-03-09 10:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by smoothemover2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are three solutions.
1 accept the fact that you are not the only one. stop wanting to be the only one. that will help
2 leave him. that will help too
3 work out why you feel jealous and also if your feelings might be correct and are telling you he is no good... that is not solvable other than therapy or choice.
2007-03-09 09:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋