Jealous of not being single?

Question

Is it normal to be upset and jealous, because my ex boyfriend who was with me for 14 years. Found a girlfriend 2 months after leaving me and his children. Sure I am hurt about everything. But what I am talking about is the part about starting over, being single. The woman he went to is an old girlfriend of his. I am mad that he does not have to go threw the whole process of meeting new people, making new connections. We didn't have many friends. So here I am doing things alone all the time. I don't mind being alone, I just would like some adult company sometimes. He wanted to be alone and to try dating other people. But let's face it being single sucks! He could not handle it. I am 41 most people my age are married. Where do I meet people?

Answer 1

Of course it's normal.....I have 4 kids and my ex left and hooked up with an old 'friend' almost immediately...now they live together and only have the kids on Wed nights and every other weekend..every other night of the week is like 'date night' for them. Meanwhile, I am here taking care of 4 kids and struggling. I used to harbor so much resentment and hate, it was crazy.

Eventually I realized I had to let that go. I have no control over his life so let him live it. I focus on the kids and indulge myself when they are with him. In the beginning, I wasn't interested in meeting people and as soon as I was, there was no one around. I even tried online but that is 80% creepy so I gave it up. Now I am just having fun and not worrying about meeting people and of course, I am meeting them. You can't force it and more importantly, don't just run out and get together with someone like he did. Any fool can do that....take the time to heal. And don't be afraid to be choosy - you deserve it!

Answer 2

Well he may not be single, but he is with AN EX!! She was an ex for a reason. Given time you may have the last laugh. Instead of running the singles scene, try a group like Parents Without Partners. When my father died that is what my mother joined and she met many nice people just like her. Some were looking for serious relationships and others just companions to take away some of the loneliness. Look around for something like this group near where you live. Once you are out there in the right circles you will be amazed at how many 40 somethings are not married or taken.

Answer 3

I left my husband (really only thinking it was a fight) on July 22nd the day B4 our 5th anniversary (our tenth year 2-gether). On Sept. 1st he took his daughter back 2 another province after her summer visit and ended up bringing her mother back 2 my place instead. Now he won't even let me c my own kids. He has custody B cause I was financially unable 2 care 4 them. Girl I know how U feel. I am 35 years old. I have since met the most wonderful man in the world - so I believe things happen 4 a reason.

Don't worry U will find Mr.Right like I did.

Answer 4

There are always clubs and places to meet people. I would not recommend these places cuz like I always say, where you meet em is where you'll find em... so You never wanna find your new guy at a club with another woman. Just freshen yourself up and go out. Look available, not desperate. Don't worry so much about being single. Worry more about your children. So what if he moved on? He'll never find a woman like you, right? You know yourself that there is no one who can compare you. You are a strong, beautiful, and independent woman and you just have to look out for yourself. Be strong, and be content that you are here today with your wonderful children. Who needs a man?

Answer 5

persons are all diverse, and that they seem at being in a courting diverse then others. ive been out with a guy and it grew to become into marvelous we didnt seem at different single human beings and decide to be them, because of the fact we've been happy with 1 yet another. yet now as iam single im loving it! yea there are circumstances while an exquisite cuple walks previous, and iwish iwas grew to become into them yet having the liberty is fantastic to boot. Iguess what im particularly attempting to assert is that persons are all diverse, and being jealous of couples while ur single or any different way around, is in user-friendly terms a fashion iguess human beings take care of there love existence! 8)

Answer 6

don't get in a hurry, that's how people your age get used. sure time is running out but come to terms with death . that's your fear, being old and all alone. if you are, you will die and that will be the end of your worries or the beginning of them. I'm not trying to get you down but if you look at the bright side , you might feel a little better, I assume you did not have any kids? that's where you messed up ya know, too late now. put that time to use doing something you like. someone will come along, he may not be your prince but lets face it, those ideas should be gone from your head by now. and if your prince does come along, hey you got a second chance. don't bytch so much next time and be easier to get along with.
be grateful in other words. you are just getting a life lesson.

Answer 7

Wish I could help. I'm 34 and single and having a hell of a time meeting someone. You could try internet dating, although I think that's a bunch of crap (have tried it for 6 months with no results). It seems that if you don't frequent a church or something your options are limited to bar hopping and many one night stands--being used as a sex toy--until you meet someone who will treat you right.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Well you can meet them in festivals, supermarkets, malls, plays, school fuctions,or on teh lake almost everywhere. All you need to do is go out and look. And if you need someone to chat just IM me anytime

Answer 9

kids how many do you have/
are you a real christian?
if you have kids what in general they are
living 14 years in mans bed not married to him?>
and now you ll start again
i feel bad for you
i m not looking for words to make it easy for you
but for others to read and learn
and i m sure he was not the 1st one to take your hymen so till you were 27 you were doing it all the time

Answer 10

go out girl! it doesnt matter if your 41. go out and have fun.