Is it wrong for a man in a serious relationship with a woman to not want her to go out with guy friends alone?

Question

Hello. I've been with a woman who I love with all my heart for almost two years now. I do all I can to treat her like a queen. I would do anything for her and she is the most important thing in my life. I always encourage her to go out with friends and I want her to be happy. We have a close relationship, I do trust her,and I only call her twice a day if she doesn't call me first. I myself don't go out with any gal pals one on one and never would since I would not think that "right" being in a relationship as I am. Recently my girlfriend has said she wants to go out with some of her guy friends individually as a friendly couple to dinner and possibly a movie.She also stated that if she met any new guys she would like as a friend she would want to go out as a "friendly couple" as well.She has never cheated on me and she is upset that I'm uncomfortable with her wanting to do this. I don't mind if she goes out with a group but the friendly couple thing bothers me. Am I wrong for this?

Answer 1

You have all the rights not to want her to go out with other guys alone. What you are asking for is a basic and logical rule of being in a serious relationship, it's not on any level considered to be controlling. If anyone is in love and in a serious relationship, the only person of the opposite sex they want and should be alone with is their partner. Even when she's going out in a group, they should know that she's not single and that she's committed to you. You should not be arguing about this because it's basic, logical and a fact of being in love and in a serious relationship. Talk to her and tell her that you are not going out with a girl alone and expect the same from here as in a relationship there should be mutual respect, care and love.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I'm sorry to tell you buddy it sounds like your GF is trolling for other fish if you get my drift I would put my foot down now. Please tell her that you feel very uncomfortable with this and that if she wants to start seeing other guys then we should call it quits. I know you say you love her lots but if she loved you the same way this would not even be something you would be asking. If she is saying couple then what are you a good friend with benefits come on wake up and smell the coffee she is either tired of you or tired of waiting for you to pop the big question. This sounds like a serious relationship to you but not her?
I would bet you 5 dollars she doesn't even mention you when she meets a guy like she says oh yeah I'm single? She sounds like a dangerous flirt!

One last thing tell her fine if you want to do this you are going to start going out with other women one-one see how she reacts if she doesn't care then its over.

Answer 3

I understand your concern. As long as you dont TELL her what to do or try and control her in this, you are not wrong. If you are in a committed relationship and deeply love the person, you shouldnt want to be with the opposite sex alone anyways. She is allowed to haave friends and do things with other people without you....but in my opinion of what a real relationship is, the only person you should be ALONE with thats of theopposite sex is your partner. It isnt saying that you dont trust her, but making sure her male friends KNOW who you are and what the two of you have together as well as them not overstepping the friendship boundaries are the first steps to preserving a lasting relationship, her not being alone with them is extra precaution that nothing happens even by accident. Its not about controlling, its about her respect for you and your relationship. Talk to her about how much you love her and tell her you wouldnt want to be alone with a female friend, and wishes she would respect you in the same way.

Answer 4

It is not a matter of being wrong or right.

I think that once a couple is dating and they consider that this is a serious relationship, why should we go out individually with new people (new friends), it makes it a bit touchy topic to argue. I do believe in friends and the importance of keeping them, but I also believe that people can get miss-leaded If you go out with them.
Other thing is that we should consider If we would be cool If our partner wants to do the same?? Would It be bothering me?? Of course.
So I do not thing It is wrong that is bothering u.
Talk it over with her.

Answer 5

I don't think you are wrong and don't even think you are jealous because like you said you don't mind if she goes in a group but going individually is different because it shows more interest in a person(and you know this being a guy)you might not know this but it is often the guys that are cool like you who losses his lady,don't let this happen to you, express your concern for this and ask her which is more important,her one-on-one friendly dates or your feelings on this.

Answer 6

People who are in a serious relationship OWE it to their mate not to go out with persons of the same sex.
If this gal loved you she would respect your feelings, period!

Answer 7

you are very right.
she should respect the relationship you have, I would never allow my girfriend to go out as a "friend couple", if she wants that that would be the day of break up.

Answer 8

No. I love and trust my wife 100% but adultery starts with temptation and that's just asking for it. If guys are there you are there or no go.

Answer 9

She should have more respect for him than to go out with other men....

Answer 10

thats messed up, I would say dont let her, but if you want to know the truth, then let her do it and spy on her to see the truth and then you'll know what shes really about.