I met an amazing guy, he told me he was falling in love with me a few days after we met. Within a couple of weeks we were havin lil arguements, he has fears from past marriage where he was hurt...so he doesnt always know how to stay and work it out. Well, we started doing good again and then he told me he needed me to be his Best Best friend and he loves me but needs to get some things straightened out (with his 2 kids) and other small things....so he didnt want to hurt me and make promises until he got somethings back on track. So, although I want to be his girl, I love him so I am supporting himmaking a good mature decision right now. So i started acting like the BEST friend...but when we talk, he gets a lil miffed when I dont say things like "i miss you" at the end of our conversations....or how i feel about him. Its weird, when I pull away and just be a friend, he gets all romantic. When im romantic back, he acts like a friend. Is he fighting being in love? Or a waste of time?
2007-03-09 09:14:06 · 6 answers · asked by exotichina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
,,,TELL HIM TO 4UCK OFF!
2007-03-09 09:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by mørbidsшεεŧnεss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to hurt you, but likes you so much he doesn't want to loose you either. Really, it's not all that fair to you. I would probably not see him in person, let him hurt some other girl in a relationship that won't last first, and tell him when he's ready, to let you know, but you like him enough it's hard to pretend to just be friends when he's so mixed up. Tell him you're there for him to talk to, and you'll meet him for coffee if he really needs a friend to sit with, but until he's ready, that's it. No physical contact. Watch hugs! They can lead to you being a bandaid instead of what you would like to be. He has probably realized that one of the things he was missing in his marriage was the ability to talk to one another. He needs to figure that out with you before you both get sucked into a love thing, or he'll be making the same mistake twice. Smart of him to stop it, but he's new to the learning how to do it right club. Communication is so important & if you don't figure it out, and learn how to be friends first, your relationship will more than likely fail, just like his marriage. Kids, as well, make things harder. Just be understanding & ask him about it all. He probably really needs someone to talk to & be supportive & tell him everything's going to be alright right now alot more than he needs to start another relationship he doesn't know yet how to have.
2007-03-09 17:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by lisalikes70scheese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's up to you to allow him to still have that hold on you like that. Let him have it because he will be one you can't seem to let go. You like the attention which is okay. Then when you realize it's not meant to be and your time will be wasted on spoiled milk. If you think he's the one, be patient until he grows up or move on to better fish.
2007-03-09 17:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling the relationship..its not about you or what you want..he is displaying selfishness..if you continue with this relationship, you may become resentful when he brings other people in...he is not ready to share his life with you because you are allowing him to control you..
2007-03-09 17:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by judith j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the love takes its course.
2007-03-09 17:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fact is every man that has a women who is a friend they really want to have sex with them
2007-03-09 17:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋