We've been dating for a long time, and i really love him, or at least i thought i did, so i cant be with him and give him a false sense that we're the ones for each other. The problem is that he loves me, i mean it, he really loves me. When he looks into my eyes and says "I love you", i can see such a passion in him. He really cares about me, and I really care about him. But i know that he thinks i love him just as he loves me and i dont want to hurt him. I was his first girlfriend and have been his first for a lot of things, though me, myself, i've been with a few guys. I love him and dont want to hurt him. Please someone help me!~
2007-03-09 09:05:45 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you want a happy ending? Well tell him the truth.... trust me its not the easiest thing to do but its the best...the initial reaction might be rough but in the long run when he finds someone who loves him just as much as he loves her he'll look back understand even if he doesnt understand now... Please just be honest , dont cheat him or yourself out of being with the right one....
2007-03-09 09:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by critterfuzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she prefers the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll appreciate the kind of straight forward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends
2007-03-09 17:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by dancingqueen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should take him out to dinner or something. You should talk about your relationship. How it's been going and stuff like that. Tell him that you really care about him and love him but not in the way that he thinks. Then tell him that you love him as a friend and can't go on with this relationship because it is too uncomfortable for you. Then say that I hope you can understand my situation. If you think that that was too hard, just tell him that you want to break up directly. I hope I helped you and Good Luck!
2007-03-09 17:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't not hurt him, it just doesn't work that way. Don't worry too much about it as he will have forgotten you the first time he kisses another girl.
Just do it and get it over with. Whatever you do, don't be a typical girl and tell him you still want to be friends. Guys hate that and know you really don't mean it even if you think you do. He is better off with you making a clean break.
Some other breezy will fill your place just fine.
2007-03-09 17:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't feel that he is the one for you there is no sense in being wth him just to keep him happy. Besides the longer you wait to break up with him the harder it will be. Just be honest with him. I'm sure it will hurt him but atleast then he knows the truth and you can both move on in you lives...
Just think if you were in his shoes and he was just 'being with you' because he didn't want to hurt you and you really really loved him..how would you feel if you found that he was doing that?? break if off if it doesn't feel right.
2007-03-09 17:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Well do yourself a favor and don't shot him a email or a text YOU have to do this face to face. Its going to hurt him but he will be ok and probably find someone down the road. So are you asking us to give you lines? For me I can't do that, you just have to come up with what your heart tells you. I'm sure the best time to do it is now for summer is almost here and no major family holidays are near. They way he takes it will show the kind of man he is.
Good luck with that...
2007-03-09 17:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't drag it out.
You don't have to be a witch about it, but come clean. He may not like it, and yeah, it may be tough, but that's how it goes.
Make sure it's what you really want before you go through with it. It's be really uncool to break it off and then try to get back together after you've changed your mind.
Good luck.
2007-03-09 17:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just be blunt and break up with him I remeber a time it happend to me i got over it quick. Believe me you will not regret it and neither will he. If you do not feel the same way as he does towards him don't waste anymore time he will respect you more by being honest.
2007-03-09 17:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't and won't love him like he loves you and you care about him, be honest. Let him go find someone who does. Your wasting his time and yours otherwise.
2007-03-09 17:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and from the heart. Tell him how you really feel deep down.
2007-03-09 17:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋