do girls sometimes find guys whom they initially find unattractive attractive later on?

Question

My question is not worded very well, but I hope you understand it. I'm a college freshman guy, and I have a crush on this classmate girl. I feel that she's not that interested in me right now. I'm always the one that starts the talking, and she's not THAT friendly. I will get her out of my head and stop talking to her for now because I have other things to care about. But I am wondering if girls sometimes are attracted to guys whom they initially regard as "scrubs" or "unattractive guys."

Answer 1

Yes, show your true side, caring, appreciative, selfless. She'll see you.

Answer 2

If they have a great personality and make us laugh, etc. then yes, absolutely. Often a hot guy will turn ugly, right before our very eyes as soon as they open their mouths. And the reverse is also true...an 'average' man who we really aren't attracted to becomes irresistable. But this only happens if they are really into your personality and not a total shallow person...some people are so vain they only look at appearances in others. Which is fine because who would want to be with a person like that anyway.

If she is not into you even after talking then you might need to just move on.

Answer 3

Most definitely. The way a person looks is obviously what gets someone's attention in the beginning. But a very attractive person can quickly become an ugly person due to their behavior and personality. The same goes for those who aren't the most attractive person in the world but have amazing personalities.

As I've always heard and said, you can only get so far with looks, after that you better have a good personality to back you up.

Answer 4

I wouldn't return the interest of a later on attraction if I were you because they usually fall under one of three circumstances/catergories:

1) Someone else took an interest in you, first. Ever heard of the expression of forbidden fruit? Some women don't give a single guy the time of day, but someone that is already taken...

2) You come into your own. Let's say when you stepped to this young lady, you were average, but later on, you acquired some 'bling'. Then all of a sudden she became 'starstruck', then it'll be your turn to say "Step!"

3) She's on the rebound & uses you to bounce back. She can't seem to get a date or needs some attention, so she decides to take pity on you & use you to get her some attention. Only you don't know it & think she actually has a love interest in you.


All in all, if someone can't feel you now, I wouldn't give them the opportunity to feel me later, because chances are, their feelings aren't genuine. Be your own 'Main Attraction'

Answer 5

From a guy's point of view, I wasn't all that handsome, so girls never paid much attention to me. But what I lacked in looks, I tried to make up for with personality. Those girls that actually took the time to get to know me and weren't fazed by superficial issues found I wasn't too bad after all. So just be yourself, don't be anything you're not and remain friendly to this girl. She may in time come to like you, then again she may not. You can't force anyone to like/love you and that being the case, get over it and move on. Somewhere out there, there will be one who finds you as interesting as you'll find them.

Answer 6

There is a chance that girls turn around, just like men, and see a person in a different light later on. However there are three things to consider... 1st off, why are you interested in a woman who is rude? Yes, she can be hot but if there is no personality then you are not going to get far, 2nd if you feel you are a "scrub" then perhaps think about changing...for yourself, to make yourself feel better and perhaps get women in the long run. 3rd, maybe you are just not her type, dont take it personally.

Answer 7

Welcome to life. Women are a mysterious gender and I am of a belief that no one will ever be an expert on women. It stands to reason that if there is not one now there will never be. As close as it gets would be the person that has enough life experience to give you a ballpark about the female gender. Women from point one will be attracted to a man by two things, money or looks, or both. The deciding factor of whether they want extended relationship will rely on three things however. One money and the probability of its continuance, looks and the popularity of the person within your peer group, and the things that she finds in your personality that will over ride the looks money thing. There are not many things that over ride looks and money and that is the superficial attitudes of most women. Some are so superficial that they will be so focused on the gender requirements of them being female that they will overlook good qualities in a person because of their training. Being female is not as easy as it looks. After all, if we could all do it we would all be men. There is no rhyme or reason for the way they are but if she is observant and sees the things in your personality that gives more credence to her wanting to be with you, ie, house broken, fetch, and abilities that you have that supercede her criteria for a partner. Most are not looking for a partner, just looks and money. A lot of men are good looking but the only one qualifier that stands out in all cases is money. Basically if you have no redeeming qualities and no looks your chance is that she is after your money. That attracts them 100% and in most cases will keep them until divorce or until they have siphoned off as much of the dockets for their personal use as they can. Then for not having enough money or being good looking enough will seek restitution in court just to have a few bucks in reserve. The girl that is for you, you will know as she will watch you at a distance, know more about you than you will believe and will come out of nowhere and she will take your heart away for her very own. Beware she will be easy to identify as she will be the one that doesn't care how cute you are or how much money you make or have but likes you for who you are. When this happens, immediately make her yours as there are not a lot of this kind of female. If you find one, hold onto her. There is on the average about one of this quality female for every 1,000 guys. Its not easy but if it was all of the good ones would be gone and the rest of us would have to wait instead of trial and error in divorce courts. Starting to see the pic. good luck.

Answer 8

Yes, girls can become attracted to guys they may at first not be attracted to. Just keep being your self don't try to hard. Compliment here on an outfit or perhaps a hair do. The number one attractant for me is a guys personality. If you can make me laugh I'm hooked. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 9

yeah some females are just funny like that but guys do the same thing. a guy that a females consider unatt ractive could lose some weight or gain some, get rid of the acne, glasses, start to dress better, and in no time she will be all over him. Its a mind thing. The like you all along but if one of their friends say why would you talk to him then its all down hill sometimes but just be patient and wait awhile. God Bless

Answer 10

Yes, sometimes guys I don't find attractive at first become attractive over time because of their personalities. However, I usually change my mind after only knowing the person for a few days.

If she isn't interested now, she probably won't ever be. Sorry.

Answer 11

A friend of mine married an unattractive guy after her husband only stayed a week after they were married and she was pregnant. At that time she liked him but wasn't in love with him but he knew this. He was soooo humorous and so brilliant and such a good daddy that she did fall for him. They then had another child together. Btw, she was absolutely beautiful. And the marriage worked.