well over the last 2 weeks me and my girlfrined have been in a lot of fights and she doesnt think i beleieve her and dont trust her. she says she thinks that she is too good for me but she doesnt want to break up with me and her friends have told her too because they think i treat her like s**t. and we've been talking about gettin engaged at the end of the month and today she said she isnt so sure and that she needs time because we are still young and she wants to make sure it is what we BOTH want. she said she wants to see that i am going to change, or else she will leave me.
what can i do to make her believe in us again and make her happy.
2007-03-09 08:36:58 · 12 answers · asked by BoSox 007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she really loves you, she wouldn't be doubting you! She would trust you, and she doesn't! It's time to move on man!
2007-03-09 08:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lavish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she dosent believe that you dont believe her or trust her that means shes not completely comfortable in the relationship and neither of you should go into an engagement without being sure. As for needing more time thats completely understandable because shes probably just nervous. What does she want you to change?
2007-03-09 16:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe a Real Sox fan, would allow the obvious to slip by? Take a break. You both need some time to think about it. if there really is something worth saving? You can't find it, fighting all of the time. Love will last,if you allow the smoke to clear. Like I said! Sox 2007! Be ready!
2007-03-09 17:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. So maybe not engaging in fights with her and learning to cool off and not be impatient with her. Not treating her like poop would be good as well. Don't get engaged if your relationship is shaky. Good Luck
2007-03-09 16:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by prettybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you know you treated her badly, and that you're going to change, and if you start treating her badly, she can leave you and you will understand. And then do your best to change.
Don't mention engagements again for a long, long time. You have lost her trust and that takes time to build back up again.
2007-03-09 16:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it's not gonna be overnight change....if you are treating her like **** then I would work on that first. You might not want to ask her to marry you yet....that might put too much pressure her....just give it a little time for her and the relationship so that she can trust you again.
2007-03-09 16:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
listen, son. i'm about to save you thousands.
WALK AWAY IMMEDIATELY.
count this as a cheap lesson learned, in terms of not having to pay for a divorce and alimony and possibly child support if any rugrats come along. nothing you say to this harpy is going to make her committed to you or a relationship with you, so just cut your losses and walk away.
2007-03-09 16:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by admiril 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but dont mention engagements. you messed up ok? youve got to face the facts. youve got to fix what you messed up. dont get married yet. it takes time to build trust and it looks like your going to have to build it up all over again.
or you could move on.
2007-03-09 16:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by kizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do whats in your heart. But be prepared to have your heart broken because either way if you get married or not love is always going to hurt.
2007-03-09 16:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by kelly j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a romantic dunner or something. Kiss her and tell her you love her.
2007-03-09 17:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by xoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋