First of all, the reason they hate me is because they think we spend too much time together. However, that's not true. I suspect my boyfriend talks about me sometimes to them. Nothing too bad- just normal guy stuff i suppose.It really bothers me though. In a few months we are leaving this town together, and he's out with his friends more than me. I don't know if he's trying to make up lost time with them, but I will only leave with him if our relationship is as strong as it can get. This is a very hard problem for me. I love him very much, and I never tell him how I feel about his constant need to always be with his friends. But I feel like I should? Anyway, please some advice?
2007-03-09 08:34:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are leaving town together for good.
2007-03-09 08:34:38 · update #1
thanks everyone helped a lot. except for the last person. Attacking me doesn't solve anything. Just a few questions from me gives you no insight to how I am with my boyfriend. I'm a really nice person and I get confused sometimes just like any person would. You seem very ignorant.
2007-03-09 11:56:24 · update #2
referring to Kim A. not the person above her.
2007-03-09 12:03:46 · update #3
referring to Kim A. not the person above her.
2007-03-09 12:03:53 · update #4
Look as a stranger...i have two different perspective to your problem. First all, you may think his friends hates you for taking all your boyfriends time aways from them but you could be wrong i mean between men and men...who the heck knows what they really say about you behing your back. Your boyfriend can have a two sided personality when it comes to you and his friends. Secondly, you can always look at the bright side maybe...just maybe the reason why he's spending that much time with his friends is because you both are leaving soon and you know how people are when you leaving you just want to spend more time with them. So as a girlfriend of his he might expect you to understand him. But my assumptions could be wrong because no one knows him as well as you do.
i wish you the best of luck!!
2007-03-09 08:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things could be going on:
1) You demand too much of his time and give him grief when you don't get it
2) He's an idiot
I suggest you let him leave town alone for a month or so and see what happens. It's not a great situation to be in but it sure beats moving to a new place and finding out the problem was not your location.
2007-03-09 16:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Pugilist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's allowed to be with his friends. I'm assuming he's a very social person. Social people need to be around a lot of people all the time. He probably thinks your relationship is already strong and he doesn't feel like he needs to woo you to keep you around. Go out with your friends, have fun. But let him do the same. So when you come back from a long night out, you'll have something to look forward to...each other!
Good luck!
2007-03-09 16:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by DivaHawk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so if you're both leaving town for good, then what's the problem? Let him hang with his friends who he might not see for a while or ever again. You have him all to yourself in the new town you are moving to, until he makes friends there. At least then, the friends will be new, and maybe they'll be your friends too. Then you can both hang out with them.
2007-03-09 16:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definatly tell him how you feel. If your relationship is that strong you should be able to talk to him about whats botherin you and he should be able to understand. Try not to be too clingy when hes around the guys or call him too much. Good luck!
2007-03-09 16:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot move away with someone whom you do not feel comfortable enough with to talk about your feelings..... this is not a strong relationship already if you can't talk to him. My advice is to sit down and talk about it. Maybe, since you guys are leaving soon, he is having the emotional equivelent of a bachelor party....going out with the friends alot since he knows he won't be seeing them soon. Who knows......and neither will you if you don't broach the subject with him and find out.
2007-03-09 16:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try hanging out with just them. But don't let it get to flirty. Also if your guys in college, send him and his friends a care package! That way they'll know that you care enough for him and his friends!
2007-03-09 16:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by bubbly_blond34241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED A REAL MAN...
Stop waisting your time with wondering if you two wikk get back together. Your "love" for him will disapear when you get with someone that will treat you like you are supposed to be treated.
2007-03-09 16:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what let his friends hate you. You don't owe them nothing your not in the relationship with his friends. Work with your bf so ya'll can be together once more.
2007-03-09 16:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by Georgia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a cool non-needy, non-clingy, non-priss, non- controlling chick your boyfriend will want to spend time with you. Guys like to be around people who do not try to control them or change them. Someone they feel comfortable around, that is why he is picking his friends over you. You are doing something wrong. You have to make him wanna be with you, and you don't have to tell him you want him to ditch his friends, just do a 180 and quit being an annoying female....most of my friends are guys and there is not many chicks that can hang around a guy and his friends and blend in. Because chicks tend to get upset over dumb **** the guys say or don't wanna do what the guys wanna do. Chill out and try not to let your unstoppable need to be a whining female make you lose your man.
2007-03-09 17:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋