Hi Everyone,
I've lost a total of 160lbs in about a 2 year time period. My lowest weight was 150. Since I'm a 6'4 female, that was when I knew I had dieted myself into Anorexia (Im seeing a special doctor now, getting help for it.. blah blah)
Anyhow, I've HAD to put on weight (around 30lbs) so I'm now 180lbs.
Even though people tell me I'm still skinny, I feel fat. I've put on 30lbs in the past 2 months (with doctors care and watch) but I just cry when I see myself in the mirror. I feel 100% better now that Im eating, but I just think I'm the most unattractive person out there.
My question is, in time, will I learn to accept my body? Or will I have these hateful feelings towards it forever?
2007-03-09 08:31:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
hard to say.... The best thing you need to do now is going to a head doc and just spill everything you are feeling...
I hope things work out!!!
Good luck
2007-03-09 08:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dominic P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Eventhough anoerxia is not the way to accomplish anything, as I am sure you are learning, you should be proud that you have discipline. Now you just have to channel it in the right way.
If you are 6'4", you should definitely be more than 150 pounds. I am 5'6" at 134 and people say I am skinny. (Which I don't think I am, but we all have those issues).
It will be hard. The problem you may face is numbers. To you they sound too high, higher than average, but you are a taller than average person. You have to accept that you are a tall person and therefore, have more bone mass, muscle mass etc. That by no means says you are overweight.
You may never fully accept your body. I have had problems since I was 13, and now I am 29 still thinking bad about myself. The key to making the most out of it is making the most out of your life and daily routine. Once you find things that make you happy, and busy your mind, you will find less and less time to obsess about your body. Will it come up? Of course, when you try stuff on, when you look at the 'size' on your pants, but in the end, it really means nothing. Except you need to be healthy both physically and mentally. And the key to that is exercise. Try walking at least 30-45 minutes 4 times a week and you will feel better instantly.
2007-03-09 16:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by adian919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your a female and to no surprise all females hate their bodies even if just a little why do you think there are so many rich plastic surgens and all the poplular actresses get lipo suction or breast implants. You probably wont ever feel like the most beautiful thing i most certainly never have. I am 5'5 and i once weighed 183lbs (because of antidepressants) and then went to 127lbs and people told me i looked too skinny. well i gained weight and now am 150lbs and totally unhappy but i deal with it. The main thing is to work out all the time and you will feel atleast alittle better that you are atleast keeping active and its not like your a couch potatoe. Just watch what you eat and exercise and talk to people and you'll be able to deal with it no it wont go away but it'll become managable.
2007-03-09 17:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by deutchtiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror, see that person staring back at you? that is the most beautiful, cutest, smartest fun loving person I know. Say this a few times a day. You will begin to believe yourself. there is no one better in this world than you. Forget the weight, exercise, watch what you eat, take care of yourself. You will be fine. But you must build your self confidence. Every single person has problems, everyone, not just a few but everyone, I don't care how skinny, beautiful, rich, it doesn't matter, they all have problems, so guess what-you are normal, now start building your confidence and get on with what will be a beautiful life.
2007-03-09 17:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Melissa, I lost weight to but i dieted and then turned bulmic and now i dont know what i am doing because i basically strave myself a lot of days too. I am currently seeking help with a great counsellor. I always feel fat, even though i lost 70plbs., good on your loosing nearly touble that, its an amazing achievement, It's so hard to accept our bodies when we have been overweight because even though the outside has changed much of the inside and our self perceptions haven't. I think if your doctor is the right one for you they should be able to help you through your negitive self perceptions...it is hard though, i know. I believe i am the most unattractive person out there..so i know what your going through!xxx
2007-03-09 17:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by SH2007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I'm 6'4 too. lol. Listen size nor shape should matter once the mind feels at ease. My mother was always really overweight but always very very happy. She enjoys life through reading and education......one has to find there own niche in life. Some like sports, others board games, but the reality is that if you dont fill your time you'll focus on the negatives that you believe are surounding you. Keep busy and forget about your eating and weight etc.....you sound great at 6'4 and 180lbs. I'd be lucky if someone like that would talk to me....lol
2007-03-09 17:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At what weight did you feel the most comfortable? I know you say you feel 100% better now that you are eating, but was 30 pounds a necessary weight gain? If you loose 10 would that make you "look" better to yourself and still keep you at a healthy level? It took a lot of stamina to loose 160 pounds, you are to be congratulated. I would imagine some of your despair could be because gaining weight is contrary to feeling "skinny"...Have you seen a counselor or psychologist? If not, maybe that is the next step.
2007-03-09 16:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by janice 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only you can determine that. Everybody has things about them they wish they could change, but all of those things put together is what makes you unique. Put it this way: if every woman on earth looked like brittney spears
2007-03-09 16:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by josh m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still have some eating disorder-like feeling, so you should talk to your doctor. Also, each day, think of one thing that you love about yourself. It doesn't have to be physical. Example: I'm a great listener.
Soon you'll know that you can do a lot of amazing things!
2007-03-09 16:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Glrir 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have/had anorexia nervosa than treatment is difficult. Usually people fight the rest of their life. Only one-third recovers completely.
The good news is: It is all in your mind. Change your mind and you change your life.
Easier said than done though.
2007-03-13 15:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by aspdfjpdjfjskodg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋