im a cutter?

Question

What do u think about people that cut?????

Answer 1

hello honey.. its really a difficult one as anyone who has ever really been controlled by this. they ( doctors) say that it is part of the tourrettes/ obsessive compulsive picture. its not quite ocd because although there is a strong need to cut there is also a release. it so tough to be stuck in this space because you know its daft but you cant get out of it. i am a self abuser myself. i scratch myself until it bleeds.... it has to bleed otherwise its not done. yes, i know it sounds daft. there are some meds that can help but also its a long process of unlearning the behavior. i wish you just the best of luck and a hug for you. don't put yourself down. there are enough people out there to do that. God speed

Answer 2

i am a cutter myself i also have Borderlind Personality Disorder i have been cutting for over 10 years. its a disease and there is a group called DBT that if you have insurance you can go to a doctor for help and join a group but you have to ask if they offer this group cause not everyone does. Cutting is a temporary relief for the pain you feel inside that you feel like you either deserve it or theres no other way to feel alive. I did good and didn't cut for over 2 years and recently started again. Cutters need a release and sometimes thats harder to find for some people. A cutter is not a bad person though and just need help realizing that.

Answer 3

When children are not "validated" they will carry it with them into their teen years and on to adulthood.
Some will pierce, others will tattoo, some will have sex with anything that makes them feel alive.
Some will cut!

Adults will move from relationship to relationship always looking for the validation they didn't receive as a child.

Validation:

It's simply acknowledging that a person is alive and important even if it's only for a brief moment as you pass on a busy street or on an elevator.
A smile is one of the greatest gifts you can give to someone.
An encouraging word or a sincere compliment is worth more then all the counseling in the world!
Validation is not the same as attention!
Anyone can get attention by standing at the street corner and screaming at the top of their lungs.
Validation means to make someone feel valuable if even only for the brief time you interact with them.
Example:
Parked at a traffic light and you look over and notice that the person in the back seat of the adjoining car is looking your way. What do you do? Look away.... or do you give a small smile or even a wave?
You have no idea what has gone on in that person's life that day.
You could be the turning point of a bad day or they may remember your kind smile as they're being verbally or psychically abused at a later time.

Treat everyone as if you will be the last person they will see or hear!

Answer 4

Sorry to hear that you are so unhappy. People never do things without a reason and the main reason people cut is because either they hate themselves for some reason or it temporarily removes the pain they feel by superimposing another pain. No-one has the right to judge a person who does this, there is a duty to try and understand. There is a lot of help available out there. Most important is that you understand why you do this and recognise your own reasons. Usually people find that when they do this they realise it is someone else's agenda they are driven by and actually there is no reason to remain a victim of another's twisted behaviour. I hope you can find a way forward, good luck

Answer 5

I am finishing my doctorate in Clinical Psychology. Cutters typically are people who do not know what to do when they reach a level of distress they don't know how to deal with. Once to this point, they discover that cutting either releases emotions or distracts from the emotions they are feeling. You are cutting because you have learned no other way to deal with intense feelings. You definitely need to see/find a good psychologist to help you figure out how to identify when you are likely to cut (what are the triggers) and other outlets to use instead of cutting (outlets that are less harmful). You deserve to treat yourself better.

Answer 6

Me too. It helps me cope and feel better in some weird way. I used to do it as a teenager but then didn't feel the urge to for quite a few years until recently. I've heard friends discussing how freaky and ridiculous they think people who cut are, they presume we're all raving mad. Little do they know that they know one, or maybe they're a closet cutter too. Who knows!

Answer 7

If something is happing in your life that is bad enough to slit your wrists I really think that you should do something about it. If it was a death of a close one. Find a hobby that will take you mind off of it. If something such as a lie is eating away at you and you can't keep it a secret that you lies anymore.........talk to an animal. I always talk to my cat and dog when I am upset at somebody or just need to let a secret out because I know that they are listening and that they can't tell anybody else.

If somebody is hurting you get away from them and tell the cops. Even if it is mental abuse. It has to be pretty bad if you are hurting yourself like this.

One you have over come what has been making you do this go to you cities mental health physicalityb and tell them everything that has has happened to you. To get over this you might need some medication.

Try to get better!

Answer 8

There are lots of reasons people cut or mutilate themselves. It can range from a personality disorder to a simple "cry for help."

Most that I have talked to who are "cutters" explain that the cutting relieves their anxiety and guilt over a perceived (note that word) wrong they have done. In other words, the cutting makes them feel better because now they are punished.

Of course, nothing anyone does in life, in my humble opinion, should make one feel so bad about themselves that they engage in hurting them self.

As a survivor of a suicide attempt, I know that is easier said than done. But I try and not judge myself so roughly today.

And most of what I feel guilty about was done TO me.

I get most of my support from staying close to a Higher Power. He/She does not judge me...just loves me.

Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Sweet Sweety Sweety.. please get help. i have a sister who was a cutter she is only 25yrs old and oh my that is so dangerous. for one if you,r a cutter then you also have depression. and that mean you need help . one of these days you,r gonna cut to deep and that's gonna be that. or you,r gonna get a bad infection and that's not good either. if you,r cutting the next step is death and Hun i pray you get the help you need. i dint look down on cutters anymore than i do people with depression or anxiety or any of those disorders they all are problems that can be solved. not cured but solved. ........................ OK look at Brittany spears she is doing alto of things that are signs of depression and if she dint get help she is only gonna destroy her self. she is shaving her head writing 666 on the top of it she is also try ed to hang her self . she is drinking and doing street drugs i mean she needs the help but Noam one can help her until she really wants the help. good luck Sweet and ill pray for you OK.

Answer 10

I am studying cutting for a college paper. I am finding that a lot of the victums have abuse in thier background and many have neglect.

I would appreciate any insights you would want to e-mail to me. This is a group project and the three of us in our group are going into Counselling, Criminal Justice and Psychiatry, respectively and we could all use any insights we get from this project in our professional lives.