She is really fine.
I was supposed to meet the woman at her place but then I changed my mind because I have a girlfriend. Now my girlfriend has found out that
I was planning to meet the woman and we broke up. What can I do to resolve the whole thing with
my girlfriend? Shouldn't it matter that I didn't do it?
2007-03-09 08:16:16 · 32 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In your mind you cheated before you ever made the plans. I know my relationship w/ my husband is true because I do not find anyone else as worth my time as he is. There is no one that could ever take his place. Sure, there are better looking, richer, more poetic. But my mate is still the only one I want for anything. It it not true love if you wonder about being w/ someone else. There is comfort in him that no one else will ever give to my soul.
2007-03-09 08:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by LUCY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No CC it doesn't matter that you didn't do it cause that thought will always be in your ex-girlfriend head about what if he would have gone, would he have slept with this woman. I'm sure a million thoughts were running thru her head when she found out and not from you. She must have been really hurt. Poor girl. I don't know if you can resolve it unless this girl has a heart of gold. God Bless and just go to her from your heart and be honest with her about the situation and tell her everything and most of all apologize to her to let her know that you are truly sorry for what you thought about doing but didn't do.
2007-03-09 08:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sori for you because temptation has already ruined your relationship. I must admit I would have left too, she is a smart girlfriend. But because you didnt go ahead with it, maybe your girlfriend could forgive you. You should maybe give her a little time to get over being angry at you. Then you should perhaps write a really nice letter, girls love this, explain that you miss her and that you dont know what you were thinking etc, promise her you will never do it again (AND MEAN IT- hopefully you have learnt) and if you win her heart back treasure her. Remember that you should never start a relationship (even if it is just sexual- and especially if it is just sexual) before the other has ended - it is asking for trouble and both will fail. Good luck - be sincere.
2007-03-09 08:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently it does not matter to your girlfriend to your girlfriend if you did or not, the intent was still there and that is what will be bothering her. I really don't think you can fix/resolve this problem, there will forever be a lack of trust now in your relationship. You should have thought about what you had and what you would be giving up by planning to sleep with this other woman.
2007-03-09 08:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something to be said for you not going through with your plans. Your girlfriend is going to be hurt because you had the intention of sleeping with someone else. There was something lacking in your relationship if you had thoughts of being with another. The only thing to do is to give her some time and do a lot of talking with her about whatever issues the two of you have. Good luck.
2007-03-09 08:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you had originally planned on doing it is enough to be convicted of the crime when in a relationship. The fact that you wanted to have sex overrides the fact that you changed your mind and did not. I commend you for not going through with it in the end but it doesn't matter in the long run. I am not sure if you can make things up to her in her mind you have cheated or would have.
2007-03-09 08:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, you should ask yourself, do you really want your girlfriend back? If you had intentions of cheating on her but backed down, can you honestly say that you loved her to begin with? It does indeed matter that you didn't "do it" but having those thoughts or intentions can seriously ruin a relationship, even if she decided to take you back, she would probably never trust you again. maybe you should move on and use this as a learning experience of what not to do next time. Or maybe you should just find someone that you really do love and want to be with and this sorta thing won't happen again..unless your just out to "do it" as much as possible...
2007-03-09 08:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by MELISSA&ERIC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all, you can't blame her for breaking up with you. The fact that you even thought about it and was planning to is bad. There is a way to get around this though, first of all you need to get her to listen to you, that won't be easy but if you are persistent she will eventually here you out. Tell her yes you did think about it but then realised that you was wrong and remembered how much you care about her and that she is the only one you will think about. There is a chance this won't work but its your best bet. If your persistant it will show you care about her too much to just let it go.
2007-03-09 08:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it gets tricky. You were willing to say yes... but not going does earn you some points.
Give her a couple of days to chill, then have an honest talk and tell her that altough you felt attracted to this other woman , you didn't do anything because you want to be with her. When you go see her show up with her favorite flowers .
2007-03-09 08:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no it matters. You had every intention in the world to go meet this girl, and your conscious ate you alive. She was right by breaking up with you, if you really love her then you never would have done that. I would have done the same exact thing if I was her. She deserves better, and if you want her back, then you have to show her that. You've got alot of kissing-*** to do.
2007-03-09 08:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋