Ok: here is a scenerio. A girl's boyfriend asks her if she wants to move on before he is shipped off to Iraq after they were together for well over 2 years. They are both over the age of 21 also. The boy feels like the girl is putting her life on hold just for him. What could the girl do or say to him in this case???
2007-03-09 08:15:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depends on what the girl wants, doesn't it? if she really loves him.. then she'd wait... if she doesn't want to wait around then move on.
2007-03-09 08:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by tanj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the girl feels. Two years is a long time to date, it's kind of a commitment area, if the two are both over 21.
Does the girl want to put her life on hold for the boy? Is the boy using the excuse of Iraq to move on to another relationship?
If the girl doesn't want to move on, she has to make it clear to the boy that she doesn't want to move on. Right now, the army is voluntary. Why did the boy choose at this time to go to Iraq without discussing it with the girl first?
2007-03-09 16:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by trudi25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl is not putting her life on hold. She's still living... There is no reason for them to end it because they are seperated. I spent a year being seperated from my soon to be husband, and I don't regret it. I'm certainly not saying the seperation was easy, cause it wasn't, it sucked. but we made it through, and he was worth the wait. The girl should find some activities while she waits, like learning to line dance with girlfriends, activities with her church, knitting, taking classes (earn a degree!) It will make the time go faster if she has something to do with her time.
2007-03-09 16:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the man in this situation understand the pressure that is put on a partner when one goes off on military duty. It's not easy, and frankly, he may not come home. He is trying to give an "out" so to speak. The woman in this situation should do what she wants to do...what her heart tells her to do, and that is all. Only her heart knows what is best.
2007-03-09 16:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to the young woman.
I would conclude, however, that if the soldier has told the young woman to move on, it means that he is not necessarily planning to remain faithful while he is in the military.
If I were the woman, I'd date quietly, keep in touch with the soldier, and see how I felt in 2 years.
2007-03-09 16:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Investor 2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They've been together for 2 years and i understand his point of view giving the circumstance that he may never return , but I'll tell you he's testing her love either that or he knows he'll probably end up cheating.
2007-03-09 16:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by seialie (pronounced sally) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesn't want to find out that you are cheating on him while he is overseas so he would rather just end it to save the heartbreak. If it's meant to be you won't find a new man and i'm sure you guys will get back together once he is done.
2007-03-09 16:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl really want to wait for him, she should just tell him so. If not, just move on.
2007-03-09 16:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know hes just scared of gettin killed...my brother is 21 the gurl is 17-or-18 and yeah i think if he says dat den she is wastin her time she needs to find another girl boo!!!
2007-03-09 16:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by ecuaadorianprincess001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on lots of things..
how long is he going for..?
do you LOVE eachother??
does he want you to move on..?
if you both love eachother and want to be together then wait for him...if you are both questioning it then you should both move on and see where you are in your life when he comes back...
2007-03-09 16:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say he is worth the wait for your soulmate to come home, and that he is worth to put on hold if he wants to defend his country and come home to a lovely and sweet girlfriend
2007-03-09 16:34:37 · answer #11 · answered by answer! this 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋