ihave a muslim boyfriend.............is the truth that he can't use (if h has to pray) the same tawel that i used after the shower??
can you also tell me all the rules that you usually have to respect???becouse sometimes i'm thinking that my boyfriend is a little crazy!!!!
i love him a lot!!!
ut i don't understand when is finishing the religion and when is starting his crazy mind
2007-03-09 08:13:22 · 8 answers · asked by lall 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2007-03-10 01:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by aw_farid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YoMera said anything and everything I could possibly say. Ignore the crap from others about how badly he will treat you because that simply is NOT true. My husband is Muslim and I am cherished and spoiled by him. As far as the towel goes... I don't know because he has his own that he always uses and I have my own. (I lived with him and his family only briefly before we married. The towel situation was already established LOL!!) Any questions you may have, feel free to email me and I will ask him if I don't know the answer. (there is a link to email me on my profile)
Later: Ok, I asked my husband about the towel issue and he gave me a really strange look. LOL Apparently is it an issue of personal preference and not of religion. ;-)
2007-03-09 09:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Muslim or male, but I've had experience with Arab Muslim men, so I might be able to help a little.
First off, if he's a strict Muslim, then he wouldn't ever be in the situation of being in the same place as a towel that you had used! I don't say that in a bad way, but it's the truth: if he's a "good" Muslim, then he won't have a girlfriend but rather a fiancee, and he won't spend time alone with her, as that might lead to temptation (e.g., sex).
Having said that, the reality is that in non-Muslim countries, it's very hard for men to follow that. So you may date a guy, even have a sexual relationship with him, and he may still want to pray and follow many other Islamic laws (like not eating pork or drinking alcohol, for example) even if it seems rather hypocritical to do so.
As far as praying goes, once he has washed for prayer, he has to use a clean towel to dry himself, so I think that does mean that he can't use the same towel that you (or even he) had used before. He also cannot touch you until after he has prayed.
That is my understanding anyway.
Additional notes to the comment above mine: It is not true that a Muslim man will not consider himself married to you if you are not Muslim. In fact, Muslim men are allowed to marry outside the religion as long as the wife agrees to raise their children as Muslims. On the other hand, Muslim women are not allowed to marry non-Muslims since it is believed that then the children will be raised in the religion of the father.
Furthermore, it is absolutely NOT allowed for a Muslim man to cheat on his wife. Islamically, there are very severe punishments for this and it is definitely not acceptable to other Muslims. That is not to say that men don't do it; Muslims are human too.
Finally, a Muslim man cannot beat his wife. This is also unacceptable. In the Quran, it says that if a woman does something really bad, then the man should leave her to sleep alone and can hit her lightly, which in hadith (the sayings and behaviors of the Prophet) means he can hit her with nothing bigger than a twig (a very small, light stick that Muslims used to use to clean their teeth) and not enough to cause any bruising or injury. It is done to make a point that she has angered him.
Now, I certainly wouldn't accept being hit even with a small twig by any means, but remember that this is coming from a centuries old religious book. It was also included so as to forbid men from beating their wives in the ways in which they used to (and many still do today, regardless of religion or ethnicity.)
I absolutely reject any suggestion that Muslim men are violent or cruel to their wives. This is totally untrue as a rule. There are bad men everywhere, of course, but this behavior is definitely not common or accepted among Muslims.
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2007-03-09 08:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by YoMera 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
my ex husband is Muslim no he can't usually they us a rug that has a religious place on it to pray on or that is the way my ex did and just to let you know if you and him get married you will not be married in his eyes if you are not Muslim.Also they think they own you and he can hit you and cheat on you if he wants to.One more thing I know about Muslims you can never turn your back on the Koran.In may opinion you should run the other way if you don't feel you can change yourself to make his whole family happy. one girl said Muslim men can not hit you or cheat one you but my ex did this on a daily basis while his own mother and brother watched him and didn't try to stop the abuse.That is the way they are raised women are under them . My ex told me one time that he should be like a god to me I told him he was crazy. By the way I hope you get along with his mom or you and your boyfriend will never make it.Leave him now!!!!
2007-03-09 08:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by baby girl 26 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
listen to Yo mra she knows. People sometimes accept their religion more as a culture /national pride rather than a religion that they adhere to.
Many will refuse to eat any meat that is not slaughtered a certian way and sold as "halal"(though they are actually allowed to eat food perpared by Christians and Jewish people so there is some allowance there) but will continue without hesitation in other forbidden activities or follow a path that doesn't say to others "hey Im concerned about how I will be viewed by my creator" so it can and does get very confusing
Probably you have seen similar interpretations of religion_ I knew one "strict" Jewish lady, keeping kosher etc but lived w/ a boyfriend-not allowed intheir belief. Also Christians who may go to church faithfully and even preach to you but do things to excess such as drink,party, sleep around on other days. So its a combo of ignorance of the person themselves as to what their religion teaches, and wishful thinking that if they just do everything ELSE to a "T" then there other transgressions will be overlooked so its a guilt reliever. It's the "alacarte" version of religion-I'll take this one but hold that one.
He perhaps is confused himslef as to what is his actual purpose and "who am I" kinda thing. He wants to have his roots and culture/food/family/touchy -feely holidays etc but it is so hard to see where this fits into a Western and often anti Islam society. Still he's man and like men the world over they are looking for an excuse to take liberties with women w/impunity. Beware also, if you are seeking a long term committed relationship-non-practicing or weak Muslim men may take on girlfriends but they dont ever respect that woman, taking them as playthings and lookinge lelsewhere for a wife. They may be expert in charming and romance but if it looks too good to be true it probably isnt true.... Doesn't it begin to look a lot like the rest of the world's men??
He may want to look into the Ba'hai faith -based loosely on some Islamic ideas but without any rituals or social rules -I call it "Muslim-lite". Its popular and gets underdog status a lot due to Muslims hating them associating any similarity with them.
Also Unitarians accept all and demand nothing really and focus on social activism-hold the prayer.
AS he continues to compromise his beliefs to fit others desires and his own , he may gradually drift farther and farther from his base religion and end up just being a very nominal Muslim like many have, perhaps going to the mosque on one holiday per year, adding Christmas to his celebrations as well. By the way probably you may notive other hypocritical activites he has like-does her ever drink any type of alcoholic drink? Its forbidden totally. Smoke cigarrettes? It's highly discouraged.
I would want to know why this person doesn't stay true to his beliefs becasue he may not be reliable or trustworthy if he has such a duplicitous nature. He must struggle w self esteem as well since he cant have the guts to make a stand and say "this is against my beliefs therefore I cannot do it". He may be afraid of what others will think and he certianly exhibits lack of self control in the women dept so you could be the next one he lies to in that case. Good luck and this is in no way to be interpreted as a rant against all of the faith-jerks are everywhere-all faiths all nationalities!
2007-03-09 10:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
LEAVE NOW!!!!!
Please don't waste your time with some wacked out religeous freak. Muslim, christian, buddist or any other.
Life is too short to be with someone who is critical of what everyone else does, or if they "respect" issues within their religeon. It is all just bull. No one will be saved and there are no virgins......besides experienced women are always better than virgins!
2007-03-09 08:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
run away, and keep papers ready for restraining orders. just in case.
2007-03-09 18:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Trid 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Immediately exit the relationship. You will only experience pain with a Muslim man....
2007-03-09 08:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by bolt1 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋