Me and this guy had liked each other for about 3 years, but we weren't interested in dating so we decided to keep it simple. I noticed that he had been ignoring me and he was becoming very flirtatious around other girls, so I knew he didn't like me anymore. Now, three weeks later I started to get mad, I have proof he didn't like me anymore (one of his friends asked him) and he still hasn't said anything. So for some reason, I don't even know why but I told him that I didn't like him anymore, and that I thought it would be rude if I didn't tell him. He still didn't say anything. When my best friend asked him why he hasn't told me anything, he said because we weren't in a relationship it didn't matter. Other people say I shouldn't be mad or upset because he's shy, which he really isn't anymore. Do I have the right to be a bit mad, and very upset, or am I over reacting?
2007-03-09 08:05:49 · 11 answers · asked by ....:).... 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have the right to feel mad, sad or happy or whatever it is you want to feel. The part that needs to be understood is that you have placed your happiness .... as well as your unhappiness in the hands of some one else. Why would you do that. What does it mean that you "don't like him anymore" That is a strange statment... "I dont like you, and I dont like peas anymore" Well, ok, then don't like him anymore. How did that help the situation. Also, it sounds like you are jelous... of what? I do not know, but you are putting alot of energy into this one person. Let it go, you will like and dislke people throughout your life, somtimes even you will like someone and then not like them anymore... and somtimes somone you thought you did not like, turns out to be someone that you like. The key to all of this is to always like yourself. As long as you love yourself, like yourself, kind and compassionat to yourself. It will not matter who likes you or does not like you, because in the end it is only you who can love you or hate you. Remember the times you feel great about yourself, when you have respect for yourself... you tend to have love and respect for all that is around you. Now, the same thing happens when you dont have love for yourself and respect for yourself. Feels like everything is against you. I think that this is not about this guy... What happned to you? What changed in you. Can't make him responsiblie for a insecurity you may or may not have. This is about you.. not him. I say, let it go...... don't put anymore of your valuable energy into something like this.......
2007-03-09 08:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Che K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like this question comes up about twenty times a day. You sound very young and that is a confusing time. There is something of the adult in you but still a lot of kid. The whole business of "like", whatever that is, signals a great deal of immaturity. Try to to write all this off as a passing thing. Otherwise it will make you a nervous wreck.
2007-03-09 16:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok guys do this alot and for strange reasons: 1. He likes you and is trying to get you to "chase" him. 2. He likes you but hes trying to back off more cause he thinks you dont like him. 3. He doesnt like you any more. Guys are just like us. But If he thinks you dont like him lots of times guys will move on expecially over 3 years of nothing happening.
2007-03-09 16:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by ok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over reacting. You both went into it knowing you were not going to be a couple so why are you so upset! Get over it and move on!
2007-03-09 16:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have decided that you are not interested in dating, then why should his interactions with other girls bother you, if you are just friends then he doesnt have to tell you every little thing, sounds like you are jealous, better think about how you really feel and not always listen to what 'friends' say about a situation
2007-03-09 16:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right to be mad and if he says that it doesn't matter cause ur not in a relationship hes trying to make himself feel better cause ur not and he wants to be.
2007-03-09 16:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Simms 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are really over reacting. He's right you have no right to be upset about anything he does.
Maybe you care for him more them you're admitting.
2007-03-09 16:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be mad. If you weren't dating, then there shouldn't be an issue.
2007-03-09 16:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over reacting, you were not in a relationship with him therefore you have no digs on him.
2007-03-09 16:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by sweetladytease 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not in a relationship.
There is/was nothing to say. WHY?
Yes, you need to take it down a few notches.
2007-03-09 16:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋