help me please, i am really scared of my parents and what to do:(?

Question

The teachers found out i cut myself (on purpose) and say i have till monday to tell my mom.i told them before but they think i stopped ages ago. But last time i told them my mom got my dad to beat me up, they hit me alot :(
i am scared i cant tell them.
please dont tell me to go to a counsellor i went to one and it didnt help me at all :(
xx

Answer 1

Honey, I understand the bind you are in. On Monday, you need to go straight to the school social worker and explain your situation. You do need treatment and all therapists aren't good at dealing with cutters, but many are, and you need some help. I've answered your questions before so I won't reiterate what you've already read about cutting, but know this. Therapists do need parental permission to treat a minor, but they don't need it when informing the parent will jeopardize the child's welfare. You can seek counseling at no charge from Catholic Charities and explain your situation so they don't inform your parents, however they will need to contact the Child Protection Authorities as you are being abused. Your school counselor will also need to contact them, all counselors are legally mandated to contact them in instances of abuse. You can contact them yourself (others have provided numbers, but the one for your state will usually be found in your phone book in the yellow pages) and I recommend that you do this now yourself if you feel you are in any imminent danger. Sweetheart, there is no way out of this dilemma without involving the Child Protection authorities and I don't want you to be afraid of them and not seek help because of it. Your parents clearly do not have the ability to help you in the way that you need and CPS will insist that they get help as well. Let me give you another piece of advice too. When you call CPS or the school authority calls for you if you feel safe waiting until Monday, be sure you tell the CPS authority that you need to speak to them alone and that you are fearful of your parents' reation when they know the situation as this will enable them to protect you. It is likely that they will come to the school and interview you on Monday (if you can wait) and it is imperative that you tell them the whole story and the whole truth. If they don't know that you are afraid of your parents they won't be able to help as well and they won't know how to protect you. If you do not tell the school counselor about your fear of your parents' reaction, they will contact your parents first and you will be in danger as you already know.
CPS will not automatically remove you from your home, so don't be afraid of that, although if you feel it is unsafe to remain there, they can place you in protective custody. CPS will make every effort to get help for you and for your family and they have many resources at their disposal to get the supportive services in place that both you and your family will need. When you talk to the CPS worker also be sure to remember to ask him/her for their card with their number so that you can contact them directly when you need to.
Again, I don't want to alarm you or scare you, but I want you to know what to expect and to realize that you cannot continue to try and fix this by yourself because you are a kid and your parents need help as much as you do. You can't hide the behavior anymore or protect your parents from the authorities and you have to tell the whole story in order for you to remain safe and not be abused and in order for everyone to get the help they need. I am so sorry this has all fallen on you, and it isn't fair, but it is the reality right now. Please try and trust that other adults will do the right thing and protect you if you let them.

Answer 2

my parents hit me too they did that 4r 10 years,
my school counselor called the acs few times and then everything is fine now even when my social worker is still with my family
i want you to stop the abusing then call the hotlines

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Adoptive Parents Committee of NYC

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Aids Counseling and Information

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Association for Children and Adults With Learning Disabilities

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Board of Health's Day Care Division

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Boys Town National Hotline

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Child Abuse and Maltreatment Reporting Center

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Crime Prevention Coalition

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Department of Youth Services NYC Hotline

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The Doctor Directory

Saint Vincent’s Hospital and Medical

Center of New York

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Early Childhood Direction Center

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Families Anonymous

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Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services

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Mahogany Sister's Network

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National Center for Learning Disabilities

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NY Orton Dyslexia Society

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Parents Help Line

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Parents League of New York

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Parenting Resource Center

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Poison Hotline

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Single Mothers by Choice

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SCAN

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Suicide Hotline

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Answer 3

Hello Razors. First of all you have to find out why you cut yourself. (To relieve stress? To get attention from people?). It is normal to be scared of your parents under these circumstances. However, in my opinion, what you should do is tell your parents you are trying to overcome this situation and you will make an effort not to do it again. In my opinion you should find another counsellor, a good one. If your former counsellor did not work does not mean that the next one will not work. Good luck! [e-mail]

Answer 4

I seriously think you need to tell your teachers WHY you feel you can't tell your parents. If they won't listen, then go straight to the head teacher and explain. Please do this. Do you have a school counsellor? You have got to have support. It would be good if a professional could explain that cutting is a SYMPTOM of your illness.

I'm so sorry your parents are being this hard on you....like you need it! You already have enough to deal with.

Best wishes

Answer 5

Then go to a therapist. The school counselor isn't really able to handle this. Judging by your screen name I also see that you are desperate for help. Let just happen. They just want whats best for you. My teacher caught me cutting myself and just tricked into going to the couselor and things got better after that. I found out that I was suffering from major depression and boderline personality disorder. After that things got better for me, I eventually stopped cutting myself and learned how to deal with my sexual abuse trauma. Get some help please. As for your parents well they should be more understanding but let the teachers know that they will hit you if you tell them that way your parents can also get some counseling for their behavoir.

Answer 6

Sorry, but if your dad beat you up, you need to tell a social worker ASAP. I know it's you may be scared to do so, but you have to realize that living in an abusive home is very bad for you.