I am not interested at all with love. I am decent looking and all, but I just can't even contemplate getting a girlfriend. I'd rather be alone. I couldn't stand all the drama, challenges, and commitment. I'd probably just shoot someone, because of my temper problems. I don't want to have any girl be interested in me, so I'm blocking every attempt. I have never asked a girl out, and I don't plan to. I don't have time for someone else. I don't believe it necessary. But one thing is getting to me. It seems most guys at my highschool have a girlfriend. I want to get a girlfriend sort of to try to fit in. I can care less about love, as I am afraid to show love, and nobody will every change that. Don't give me crap about how I'll regret not getting a girlfriend later on in life, because I won't.
2007-03-09 08:02:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be so hard on your self and others, you are at a difficult time in your life. Remember it will get better, I promise you that it will.
Don't try so hard with others to fit in, just let it happen. High school is such a different time in our lives. Everyone is trying to figure out just who they are, and they are often struggling with that. Everyone wants to be top dog, but in the end no one really is as it's just what it is high school.
Athother thing that you may want to think about is the
difference between aggression and assertiveness so that you know the difference.
I think that most people mean to be assertive where they to tell people what they want or even need and there isn't any thing wrong with that. As it isn't demanding at all it is simply telling those around you what you want and need.
But where they make the mistake is by becoming aggressiove instead, when they use aggression it causes people to become hurt and it causes them pain and lets face it no one wants to be put in pain and be caused to be hurt.
There is nothing wrong with being assertive and saying what you need or want. But aggressison is a horrible thing to use as it ruins relationships and friendships.
When we love people we can not try to control them, we must respect the person for who they are. That they were raised differently from us and they will have different oppionions them self, and there isn't any thing wrong with that. The fact that they are never truely bound to us and are able to leave any time that they want. We must respect their need to feel good about there own self and who the are, and not rip down thier self esteem to make us feel better. As we will never truely feel better by doing that. Taking away some ones self esteem is a form of aggression that inflicts pain upon the person. People will usuall not want to be with us when we behave this way.
You should try to get into some thing like martial arts, its really a terrific sport. It build self esteem, confidence and teaches you self control a good thing for any of us to learn. It isn't a means to hurt any one though as it isn't about hurting it is about building you up. It is about gaining self control and becoming at peace with your self, it will teach you many things about your self.
It will show you that you are so much better than you give your self credit for. It will also help draw others to you because it will give you some thing special and others will be interested in what you are doing. It is some thing that will make you feel special and othes will think it is pretty cool as well. Think about these things and see if you can implement them into your life and become the man that you are seeking to be.
Maybe also go to church and get closer to God, he will help you if you ask for his help. Remember that God helps those who help them selves. He loves you as he loves all of his children.
I hope this helps you. God Bless, I will pray for you to find your way and to be able to feel better. Good Luck!!
2007-03-10 06:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are you so afraid to fall in love?
I really don't think u should get a girlfriend just to fit in. I mean, think how low you would feel if she liked you back and your excuse for being so cold was " Oh, i'm just using u to be cool."
If you're not interested in girls don't get a girlfriend because no girl wants to be used and then hurt. But seriously be more open minded. If ever the right girl comes along, you don't want to miss your opportunity!!
Your day will come!!
2007-03-09 08:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by missi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok then if you dont see a point then dont get one, why do you have to be so difficult. theres obviously something involved in relationships that you dont know about. do you think every1 would be falling in love and getting in relationships if they wernt enojoying it? if it doesnt mean anything to you then just forget about it... its that simple. and you not showing love is not a good thing. love is always going to be present with things in your life and its just a matter of time before you realize it and regret things. and if you dont even have feelings to hook up with a girl then you might be homosexual. now go rethink your outlook on life because i guarantee you will have regrets when your older
2007-03-09 08:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by 12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you dont want a girlfriend yet in another section you were bragging you beat up your girlfriend. Why not get help now before you ruin alot of peoples lives. You obviously have had alot of abuse as you seem to show alot of disrespect and hatred towards women. Please get help. Underneath your tattered soul as to be a good person somewhere.
2007-03-10 01:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a hug not a girlfriend that or some theraphy.
2007-03-09 08:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by sweetladytease 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you want to get a girlfriend just because your friends have girlfriends? dont go and pretend you like someone just to find out what its like to have a girlfriend. because you'll find up hurting her if she really likes you.
2007-03-09 08:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by ~lipgloss barbie doll~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, nobody says u HAVE to get a girlfriend, bro. That is entirely YOUR choice and no one elses!!!!
2007-03-09 08:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Papi G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want a girlfriend then don't get one. Live your life on your terms.
2007-03-09 08:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because a girl feels way better than a sock
2007-03-09 08:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im curious as to when youre born cuz some signs dont care about romance....you dont have to if youre happy
2007-03-09 08:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋