She is very posesive. She does not leave him alone for one minute. My son is dropping in his education. He is working to support this girl's habit of eating out and movies. My son is a diabetic and I am very worried about how his life is going. Any adivice would be nice.
2007-03-09 07:55:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you can certainly let him know you have concerns about their relationship, but at the end of the day, it's his decision. Expressing your opinion can always have negative consequences, so tread lightly.
2007-03-09 08:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably approach these same behaviors in the same manner as if he didn't have a girlfriend. The more you let your son know that you dislike this girl, the more he will defy you and spend more time with her. There should be some household rules that should be in place regardless if he has a girlfriend or not.
#1 SCHOOL COMES FIRST-if you let your grades drop extracurricular activties ( girlfriend, friends, movies and JOB)comes to a hault until you grades come up to acceptable standards.
No matter how much you want to, don't interfere or comment about his relationship. Mothers have a bad habit doing this. Your son is growing up and he needs to learn how to handle his relationships. This is how he is going to learn what qualities he wants and doesn't want in a woman. Unless you truly believe she is going to cause him harm, leave it alone. Be a silent but observant mother. Pretend you like her and be civil to her. He is more likely to tell you more information if he thinks you don't hate his girlfriend. Its better than being in the dark.
2007-03-09 08:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probobly to have a serious talk with him to point out the reality of relationships. Iknow kids think they know everything and he might just blow you off and think you're trying to tell him what to do. You could show him an older couple that goes through the same thing, and contrast and compare. Or you can just do nothing and let the situation blow up in his face and let him learn his own lesson. Maybe he'll be smarter and not put himself in that situation any more. Maybe he'll realize he's addicted to women that bring trouble into his life. There are tons of men and women that are just addicted to problems.
2007-03-09 08:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny Afman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that you notice.. but I don't understand why didn't you talk to your son and let him know what going on and that effect him and his life if he not looking after himself and take care of himself... and seems to me that he been taking care of this girl and she not helping him take care of him too.
So you really need to talk to him and let him know... don't get upset or anything just let him know that i know i am the mother but I am telling you what I see and you think about it.. if you make that choice and things happen to your health.. I can't do anything for you because you already heard me say it and you make that choice... but you will be alwyas be my son no matter what choice or decsion you make but I may still tell you what to do since you under my roof or not...
2007-03-09 08:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should talk to your son and his girlfriend and tell them that they need to take some time off so he can get in the swing of things in school and if that does not work than ground him until he is out of college. LOL
2007-03-09 08:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by brittney w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you properly want like this answer but don't interfere you will make him more determend to stay with her you think back on what you did when you were told that a boyfriend was not right for you i bet it made you more determend to stay with him all you can do is make sure he is taking his medication and eating the right things or you can have a word with him but i would not bank on it working
2007-03-09 08:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by nicola s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to learn this lesson himself, if he like her and likes being with her, nothing you say is going to make him change his mind! you can talk to him about his education though, just leave the g/f out of the conversation!
2007-03-09 08:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same type of relationship. I wish someone would have told me when I was just starting to date her. Let him know how you feel, and if possible, try and find a way for them to spend less time together. Maybe a mom and son day. I dunno. Lol. :-D
--Nick
2007-03-09 08:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to love and support him thats all you really can do. He will have to learn some things on his own.
2007-03-09 07:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asks your opinion then tell him...otherwise butt out unless he is a minor and living at home then you should ground him
2007-03-09 07:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋