i know you probably see questions like this al the time, but i need help with having a great convo. w/my boyfriend. He has pulled back 4rm talking a lot& i'm lost i'm not a talkative person, but we have been dating for almost a yr &i can't keep a good conversation with him to save my life. there are always these long pauses and he takes it as me hiding something and confiding in some other person. It's not him or me not having an interest w/ him, this has been a problem in ALL my relationships. This is serious i cry myself 2 sleep sometimes b/c i think he is losing interest in me. He used 2 call me on every break, now he only calls me once when he gets home and is done talking 2 whoever he needs 2 talk 2. right now i'm desperate, i need any advice. if u know of any books please i'm open 2 anything. i come 2 yahoo answers 2 get topics 2 talk about w/ him.I'm stressing. i feel him pushing away 4rm me. i don't want 2 lose him. he has a lot of female friends& im afraid he'll talk 2 them
2007-03-09 07:28:15 · 11 answers · asked by Miss Unsure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk about anything and everything. Tell him how your day went and ask him about his. Tell him that there is a movie you've been dieing to see. Just be yourself.
2007-03-09 07:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Çåŗőľîņẫ§ħŷġĭ®ł 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. You've run out of the topics that amount to "What did you do and learn all your life before I met you?"
2. Ask him to teach you about one or more of his interests. But only if and to the extent you are genuinely interested.
3. Go on a major campaign to liven up your sex life. Well, actually, guys sometimes don't like to talk about that. But with enough reward in it for him, you'll manage.
4. Get on your knees in front of HIM and he may not be too eager for you to talk at all. :) I'm only half-joking; if you happen to have a submissive streak, this is a good time to let it show more.
2007-03-09 20:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop, and breathe honey. Talk about tv, what you did last weekend, and for those long pauses just giggle and think fast, or say something small like, "oh,i forgot to tell you"... and perhaps you two are just settling, that doesn't mean you have to talk all the time. Do something new together and then you can talk about that and if you want to do it again or, completley surprising buy him something personalized or make him home made coupons on your pc, get creative girl, I have faith in you. Good Luck!!
2007-03-09 15:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by jonni_richter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well after a yr u should feel comfortable but maybe he knows everything about u now u could keep a piece of paper with you about exciting things that happen during the day and jot them down one by one then when he calls u'll have something to say and also after u've done the wrighting thing it just comes natural after a while you could talk about the weather or something that u herd on the news it's not thst hard but relationships aren't easy u do have to put in work
2007-03-09 15:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Happily Taken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in a relationship for 4 years and it does get really hard to find things to talk about with him. But you should talk to him about this issue. Address it. Theres a problem and now you guys need to find a solution. I think that a relationship doesnt have to be about talkin all the time, sometimes its about spending time with the person you care about. but finding a solution to this problem and going at it together can bring you closer and bring more intimacy to the both of you
2007-03-09 15:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by BugHugz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your boyfriend, you should be able to talk to him about everything! Ask him how his day was. Going out to the movies is always great, because you always have something to talk about afterwards.
Or you can just be silly and ask him like, if he could have any super power, what would it be. Or you could play 'would you rather'. Sounds stupid, but I've been found to play that game for hours...
2007-03-09 15:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awkward silence after being in a relationship is usually an indication that the end is near.
It is OK if there is nothing to say, or if there is quiet. However, it is NOT good if either of you are uncomfortable with the silence.
Sorry, that's how I see it.
It is also possible that your BF is seeing someone else.
2007-03-09 15:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are his interests?...Those are the topics you need to research...If he likes football...get interested...research his favorite team...feign interest...get him to discuss it with you...with things like ...really?...tell about such and such....I wish I knew more about this because it is really interesting...I wish I knew as much as you do about .....You just need to get him talking...that is at the bottom of a good conversation...show interest in his interests....good luck.
2007-03-09 15:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what's going on with you. He's your bf--you should be able to tell him how you feel. If you don't tell him what the problem is he's going to think it's something else.
2007-03-09 15:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something special for him to let him know that you really like him and confront him about your feelings and if he really likes you then he will understand.
2007-03-09 15:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by vexen431 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋