I have been dating a guy for 1 yr and 8 mo. In the beginning of our relationship he bought me things, etc...I have two daughters and he has 2 sons - same ages. He went through a terrible bitter divorce and he takes it out on me - he talks about how much money he spent on his wife, and how much it cost to get divorced etc. We have went out several times (cheap dinners w/ mygirls) and I have paid several times and even paid for his and his kids too. I have cooked them dinner a lot. To make a long story short - on Valentines day he called and I asked him what he was going to do and he said we could go to dinner but it would have to be something cheap and if I wanted to go somewhere expensive than I could pay for it because he works to hard for his money to blow it on a woman. He said he pays child support and I recieve it so when we go out it should be 50/50. I haven't heard from him since - not one phone call, he just dissappeared. I am so hurt! What do I do to feel better?
2007-03-09 07:22:11 · 11 answers · asked by Sandy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has been divorced since 2002! How long does it take to get over a divorce? I went so far out of my way to show him how wonderful I was and could be for him and his boys. I really showed him I loved and cared for him, his kids and his parents.
2007-03-09 08:22:35 · update #1
sounds like he has moved on to have sex with another woman. sorry. that's how I see it.
2007-03-09 07:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to just forget about him...He is trash if he would do that to you. Obviously he doesn't even care about your feelings...you could go into debt taking care of him and making him happy but it's not worth it...your kids are more important and he is an idiot...focus on your family and totally ignore him...with the extra money you will have (whatever would normally be used on him) you can take your kids somewhere nice or somewhere fun...just move on!
2007-03-09 15:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by pinkbabiesr07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks to the gods are in order that this bum is out of your life. With friends like that you do NOT need enemies. Feeling better wil come with time - take care of yourself and your children and stay out of dating for a while. Keep away from this wretch and do not under any circumstances have anything to do with him in the future. Some day you will realize just how lucky you are to get out of such an abusive relationship.
2007-03-09 15:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should find some one who appreciates you and when they appreciate you they dont feel like it is a waiste of thier money and if he really liked you he would want to spend money on you. And the divorce and child support he brings up is no excuse!!!! im sorry you got hurt but i think you should find some one 100% opposite of him one who will appreciate you and your kids and not be so selfish and cheap!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-03-09 15:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not over his divorce. You don't need that kind of drama. You've got kids of your own to worry about and they don't need the drama either. Drop the loser. It doesn't even sound like its as much about the money as it is about trust - the money sounds like an excuse. If he can't trust you, he isn't ready and you should move on.
2007-03-09 15:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel bitter and hurt because you tried to make this relationship work and this selfish cheap piece of crap did not care. so take my advice and just get away. if he calls then tell him to f off. money is only money but finding a true love is worth more than money anytime. i wish you well
2007-03-09 15:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out on a date with your girlfriends...get to talking a lot about it and you will realize that you got lucky to get out at this time!!!
2007-03-09 15:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't ready for a relationship. Be glad he's gone. It's time to move on. Good luck!
2007-03-09 15:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Hootiesplace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him to save yourself from complains?
2007-03-09 15:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by vexen431 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank your lucky stars that he went away!
2007-03-09 15:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋