If the truth would really hurt the person, do you have the skills.....?

Question

........to be vague when answering, or do you just throw it all out there?

Answer 1

I like to use the "sandwich" technique, where you put the criticism between two complimentary statements. Say for example that your friend asks you if she looks fat in her dress. You think she looks like an overstuffed sausage link. Instead of saying that, say something like, "You look so pretty in blue. That red spandex dress really doesn't flatter you in the hip area and the color doesn't bring out your eyes, but it's a great length on you. Why don't we look for a blue dress that's also knee length?" Or something to that effect. You're still telling the truth, but you're offering solutions in how to fix it. You don't have to totally sugarcoat something, just give it a dusting of sweetness.

Answer 2

I start out trying to be vague, but then the person I'm talking to gets frustrated and makes me spill. Then I get too blunt and it comes out harsh because they pushed me.

It's because I can't hide how I feel, so when I have bad news for someone, they know it before I even open my mouth.

Answer 3

There is always a way to be truthful and polite at the same time.

People who are crass just don't care about others feelings

Answer 4

I'm able to make things light so that it's not as hurtful as it could be. However, there are times when you just need to be brutally honest.

Answer 5

I try and tell them subtly, I don't think I have the heart to just throw it all at them. I try to do it as nicely as possible to spare their feelings.

Answer 6

i would rather tell the person straight up then let them make the same mistakes. i don't have time to sugar coat or blow sunshine up peoples butts to make them feel better. most people dont have enough balls to do what i do.