did i get PLAYED???

Question

so there's this really popular guy who is the BEST at sports at our school and even got moved up a grade. he was most likley way to good for me.

my friend introduced us.

he always made me feel good about myself.
he told me he really really liked me alot.
he always complimented me.
he got mad when i was with other guys.
i liked him alot alot alot so when he asked me to have sex with him i said yes (i was a virgin)
BUT!!!!!
his friends didn't like me.
he never asked me out.
he didn't show that he liked me when his friends were around.(at all!!).
his friends say that he said i wasan't THAT good in bed(how da hell does he want me to be an expert when its my damm first time.)
he stopped answering my mesages.
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*what are some some good ideas to get revenge on that guy.? (please NO LECTURES on revenge)

*how can avoid getting hurt again??

*do you think that he remembers me as ''the ***** who sucked in bed''?

*how can i forget about him?

ummmm forget about the revenge thing then

so when ever somthing like this happens its the girls fault????? so confusing...but i guessss

Answer 1

Yep, move on!

Answer 2

To put it bluntly yes you were played, but you are not the first girl nor will you be the last to fall for the idiotic games of an immature azzwhole. Use this as a lesson learned. I wouldn't try to get any type of revenge because that would essentially show that you are stooping to his level of immaturity. Just be more careful about what the guys intentions are before you make any decisions such as the one you made. You will know you don't have to say yeah to sex..if the guy likes you he is not going to pressure you or make you feel as if he will leave if you don't have sex with him. This is the type of guy that you want. I don't think you should forget about him ...I would draw strength from him to avoid meeting other pricks llike him. As far as you not being good in bed this is probably untrue he just wants to be a dick.. Just remember if you weren't good in bed just tell him you didn't have enough material to work with. This should sht him the hell up. BTW sorry that happened like. Be careful next time like i said sex should not be a bargiinnig tool, find out intentions first. Good luck.

Answer 3

He just said that to be hurtful because he's immature. What does he know, he's only the same grade as you, and plus, that doesn't matter. You'll never get it back and no matter what you do, getting revenge on him won't make your rage disappear. Just be glad you're not tied down to that jerk and if people ask you about him, just say it didn't work out. Don't get emotional about it, just cut him out of your life like he did you. And even though nothing will ever replace your first time, be more careful about who you give yourself up to, because it doesn't matter how nice they are in the beginning, because most guys all seem to see if they can get "it" from you right away. Next time, take your time and really date the guy, put him through some stuff, like waiting for you to get ready for a date and make him wait for that special moment. Now just breathe and don't let anyone know that he bothers you at all.

Answer 4

well sweetie. u just learned 2 of the most valuable lessons u can learn about dating(especially dating in your teens.
Lesson 1) a guy will say/do ANYTHING to get the C00CHIE. I DO MEAN ANYTHING!!
2) The moment a chick gives herself 2 a guy she is also giving over power in the relationship to the guy. example: this guy told u he liked u, gave compliments spent time, etc. till he got the coochie. then he wouldn't even spit on u if u were on fire. this is a constant theme that u need to learn from. u hafta make sure that a guy does more than TALK a good game b4 u give it up to him.
as far as it being your fault i would say it is not. u can not be blamed for being naive. the key is now that u know the game a lil better u gotta make sure u don't get played again. because then it WILL be your fault.
what do u do? how do u get revenge? u take good care of yourself. get good grades. don't become a $lut who sleeps with a bunch of other guys at school. go to a good college. get a great career. and trust me you'll run into him someday and you'll be lookin SOO good and he'll come up to u tryin to get with u again and u can just laugh in his face. don't give him the time of day. got it?

Answer 5

I am afraid that you did get played. He saw that you were really digging him and he took advantage of that.

Revenge is a dish best served cold, lie low for a little while then get back at him. I will not suggest anything as I do not know the situation

Be careful, make men prove themselves to you next time.

He already forgot about you.

In time you will forget about him.

Good luck sorry this happened. Remember everyone gets screwed over in love. Just learn from the experience and don't make the same mistake twice.

Answer 6

Well if you want to forget about him then getting revenge isn't going to help. Moving on will and to do that you need to cut him off, quit sending messages to him and quit talking to his friends about him.

To avoid getting hurt again you need to wait to get physical with a guy. Alot of guys just want to bang you and move on, you'll never know what their true intentions are if you give it up right away. So let this be a lesson and don't repeat your mistake. Don't beat yourself up over it though, this guy is a dirt bag and he isn't worth your time anyway.

Back to the revenge thing, you could start a rumor that the only reason he's saying you sucked in bed is because he couldn't get it up and he was embarassed by it. ;-P

Best of luck to you!!

Answer 7

Well for starters, you opened yourself up to be played when you agreed to have sex.If you want to keep from getting hurt again then no sex till youre married.Revenge?When you see him with a girl ask him if he has had sex with her yet, that you only agreed because he told you "fill in the blank" and how many has he had sex with before you and after you.You may still get hurt again, but if you dont have sex with the guy, at least he wont be able to trash your name like this guy did.Now all the guys will see you as "easy" and they will be glad to give you some experience and then move on to the next inexpersienced girl.In fact you will probably become real popular as each guy tries out for his chance to have sex with you.They will say and do all the right things.If you want to know whether he loves you or not, wait until the "I do"s " are said and youre pronounced man and wife BEFORE having sex.

Answer 8

To answer your question. Yes you did get played.. or basically used.

How to avoid the situation happening again, Don't give it up! Unless you love the person and you're actually in a "committed RELATIONSIP" don't do it. Revenge is gay, he's not worth it, why show him that he actually got to you?
As for you being known as the girl who sucked in bed, not gonna happen, and even if it does everyone knows he wasn't the greatest when he first lost his virginity.

Move on, that will help forget about the loser.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

We all go through life getting hurt, but in this case, save yourself for marriage. It will benefit you and your husband in the long run. Forget about what he or his friends think about you. Even though he hurt you, learn to forgive him, or this will stop you from having a real relationship with someone you may really care about and want to marry. Even though you can't take your virginity back, to go out having sex with other men. Respect your body and preserve your "precious" for your wedding day. Saving yourself for marriage protects your heart from the many men that will tell you they love you and do whatever it takes to try to get in your panies. Not all guys, but most guys. When most guys tell you tha they love you , actually they're saying I just want to have sex with you and not be committed to you. Revenge will only help temporarily in making you feel good... but you will always have that scar of what he did to you.. You just have to make the decision to forgive him and move on with your life. Which is easier said than done.

Answer 10

Don't waste your time planning revenge on that stupid jerk-off. Don't worry about what he says or what he thinks--after what he has done you shouldn't give a cat's @ss. YOu can avoid getting hurt again by being a little smarter. Re-reas your question--in your question you will find that he was questionable from the beginning--you just have to open your eyes. There are guys out there who are not total weiners. Good luck!

Answer 11

yes you did, he only wanted you for one thing and that was all, I think you should forget him if he doesnt talk to you, im sorry, i hope things go good for you. just forget that guy. If you want revenge well, all his friends know you slept with him. tell everyone and his friends that he gave you an std. if u want if not then do something so he can get embarrased