Right...I've liked this guy for years and I think I may love him. He told me once that he fancied me a bit but that was a while back. We're still friends but I don't know what to do. Should I face my fears and confront him or should I move on?
2007-03-09 06:59:14 · 31 answers · asked by vicki-rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NB - I think he has a girlfriend
2007-03-12 09:17:41 · update #1
I think you should drop subtle hints that your interested, but if the hints are not going anywhere, it's likely he's not that interested. If you confront him, that may really scare him away. If he does have a girlfriend, well he's got a girlfriend. It's not love if it's not reciprocated, just an intense infatuation. Try to work on letting go. Go on dates with other people. Stay friends and stay cool, if in the future he's single and available, well then things may change. Have patience and go out on more dates.
2007-03-17 02:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Steph717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now alot will think im wrong but...
Ive had friends come to me and say the same that someone they had fancied has a girlfriend or boyfriend and they really dont know what to do.
Well for a start, Dont give up just because of that... Afterall if you are seriously in love with the guy then your gonna have to work for it, Apparently they say (whoever "they" are) that love costs and in this case it does. Just remeber you and the guy you like could be the perfect match however the girl he is with now could feel the same and loosing him could seriously hurt her e.t.c
I would definatly confront him, Dont sound "desperate" for him as just as girls its a turn off for most men/guys as they know they can play you, I always struggle on that part lol
Good luck ;)
(Dont forget, Theres plenty more fish in the sea)
2007-03-17 14:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Av3rag3Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get together with him and let him know just how I feel about him. Let him know what you like and why you like it about him. don't fear rejection!!!! You must remember that you are one special woman and never let anyone take that away. After your talk (not confrontation), you will know if and how good a relationship is there for you. Every challenge you face will only continue to make you a stronger woman, so keep on growing and have faith in yourself above everything else.
Remember too, that you are doing good right now and that you will continue on either way. Smile and be blessed and Happy as you meet your daily challenges!
2007-03-17 14:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if he doesn't make the first move, it's not worth the worry.
Be open to relationships with other guys in the meantime. Maybe he'll see how great you are and say, "I can't believe I didn't ask her out! I'm so stupid!!"
You can still have a lasting friendship with this guy. Tell him how you feel, but know that he might want to be "just friends." You have to be ready to accept that.
Good luck, dear,
Mel
2007-03-09 15:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Melody L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a girlfriend move on, plenty more fish in the sea.
Whatever you do don't go for confrontation, try chatting and flirting just a little, but only if you find out he hasn't got a girlfriend
2007-03-15 10:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by noeusuperstate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it very strange when people say you should try to break up someones relationship for selfish reasons. How would you feel if you were in love with a man and a woman came along and stole him from you. No wonder women don't trust each other. If he has a girlfriend forget him and move on.
2007-03-15 19:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he has a girlfriend you should move on. Or you could just confront him on the issue. Tell him how you feel. What do you have to lose.
2007-03-14 23:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. J J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He fancied you only a bit a while back but since had done nothing more to indicate he is still interested... Isn't this obvious enough for you that you are wasting your time worrying about it? Keep your friendship if you must but move on.
2007-03-17 09:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu should go for it, if not you will have regrets about it for ever. This way you find out one way or another and besides, what is the worst that will happen? He doesn't feel the same? Ok, then it wasn't meant to be and move on to someone that WILL love you.
2007-03-09 15:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ken R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try confrontation - ask him out to dinner - tell him it's dutch - 50/50 and stick to it. Tell him that you want to explore the possibility of getting to know him better. Just might work.
2007-03-09 15:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋