i have not had the best relationship with my in laws so i dont know if maybe this is the reason that i may be a little bothered by this, but my sister in law took my baby to take pictures with her without asking me. i dont like it . am i over-exagerating
2007-03-09 06:56:23 · 9 answers · asked by haley01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
these were his 1st pictures, and i wanted to be there for them
2007-03-09 08:59:02 · update #1
I'd be offended I think especially b/c you don't have a good relationship. I can see it as a nice gesture if she was trying to surprise you and get you a portrait of your child and she paid for it. But usually when someone even family has your child, they should let you know where they are going, what they're doing together, etc.
I know where you're coming from with the in-law situation, so I understand and if it was me I would probably feel like she didn't feel obligated to tell me what they're doing and it's MY child! I get what you mean but it could be harmless. Just let her know you'd appreciate her telling you what they'll be doing when she's watching him, you are his mother after all. And tell her that maybe you wanted to get some of the pics and since she didn't tell you, it was too late, so to always give you a heads up on what she's doing with your child.
2007-03-09 07:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since you are particularly not too fond of them you are nit picking. She did not go and get the baby a haircut or pierce the baby's ears so I suggest you getting over it.
As for your irritation on the first pics, I can totally understand but I am wondering how old your son is. Didn't you take pics of him when he was born? Maybe you meant studio pics and if so, perhaps they couldn't wait for you to take them (your in laws) and give them some so they went and took them themselves. After all, even if you dont have a good relationship, he is still her nephew.
Letting you know as a courtesy would've been nice but I dont see the point in being offended.
2007-03-09 10:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Georgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tend to pick on the little things when we don't like someone. No matter what they do, it will bother us.
You might be over exagerating a little. Regardless of your differences, I am sure that your in-laws love your son and wish him well. If your sister in-law took your son for a picture session with her, that's great! She loves him and by the looks of it, she wanted pictures with him.
Never the less, I see what you would feel like that. Just try to eas up on it a little, trust me I know what I am talkign about. It will make your life easier.
2007-03-09 07:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just wanted some pictures of the baby. Do you give them pictures when you have them done? ANd if you do I would bet they are the small ones. Don't be offended they love your child it's her aunt she just wanted some pics. I think you are over reacting. It's not like they cut your kids hair or anything bad like that. Keep your baby out of your problems with them as much as possible. All the kid should experience is the love they deserve from their family. My kids aunt has had there pics taken several times so she can send the pics to her brother (my ex) I don't get angry with her. She never asked and I dont care. My ex is a loser who hasen't seen his kids in years, he can't talk to them anymore and I harbor angry feelings for him but he gets pic's of his kids those pictures don't harm my children or me, they just make his sister feel better. Let it go.
2007-03-09 08:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were expecting a little more from your sister in-law so it has affected you.
I would let them know to ask you next time without getting into details, so that way you are saying that you are over it, but don't want it to happen again.
It is good that they want to be involved in your child's life, so I wouldn't be too hard on them.
Take care!
2007-03-09 07:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by ringolarry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe you are not over re-acting. You have no idea as to why she wants to take him to have his picture taken. Given your relationship with your in-laws, I really think she should at least have asked you for your permission. If you feel real upset about it, then maybe you should discuss your feelings with your Hubby and ask him to approach his family with your wishes.
2007-03-09 08:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by njoy1boi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i think so well thats if she gives you a picture to but i see it this way she just gave you the gift of a memory kids grow up so fast we dont remember all there stages. consider it a gift you cant beat a updated picture of your kids for the present and future
2007-03-09 07:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i would be mad as hell too! Thats your child! Slap her ***, take the pictures, and let me know how it turns! No don't do that, i'm just playing! Let her know. It probably wouldn't be so bad if they were just pictures of your baby.
2007-03-09 07:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by $Bl@Ck BuTtAfLy$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No big deal unless you're Amish.
2007-03-09 12:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋