If a male colleague asks for your cellphone number, can you say NO?

Question

Someone has asked my fren that but she doesn't want to because he is not successful nor well educated and rides a motorbike.
She asked if this is her reason must she simply say "yes" & allow his phone calls & reveal more bout herself, even tho she does not want to in order to avoid back stabbing. He said "I want to call you once in a while to chat with you and get to know you better and just be your fren".
He asked her if she were married (she's not) or has a boyfriend coz she was twitching her ring she was wearing. He kept saying "I want your cell phone number (few times)"

Then she said " I think i know where this is heading. I don't want to be too close. We can chat at work."
Then he says "What are u saying? Just wanna be your fren. Not thinking bout that sorta thing."

Her Question to me is, "Is it wrong for an educated girl (but not doing that great) to want something more than the above? "
If she tells in his face will she get into trouble? Possible revenge perhaps?

Answer 1

There is never anything wrong to want something more. You are the one is in control of your own life!

She can just tell him that she likes to keep her cell phone for out of the office type situations, personal use. I know it'll be hard, but she needs to be persistent and not give in. =]

Answer 2

Since when do you have to go into depth with an explanation why you don't want to give someone your cell phone number? She already said they could chat at work and she doesn't intend to get close to him. The answer to your question is, you can say no to someone who asks for your cell phone number. You can also say no to someone who asks for a key to your house, the combination to your locker, or anything else personal that allows access!
As to the wisdom of wanting more (education, success) in the men you date, it's fine. You set your standards and stick to them and you are guaranteed to meet and marry someone who is as educated as you are and can support your family with security when you have a family together.
A few, very few, become fabulously successful when they look uneducated and unsuccessful to begin with. Those special people who succeed through drive and talent and smarts may have been turned down along the way by many girls. It's a tough climb but they bring along their high school sweethearts on the road to wealth and success, sometimes. That's a risky game to play so I think your friend is wise to set her standards high now.
She doesn't need to tell him anything at all about why she is not interested. If she's not interested, she's not. End of story.

Answer 3

You are not obligated to give out your personal cell number to anyone.
You can simply tell him that you don't give it out and you'd be happy to chat once in a while when you cross paths but that you're personal is really very busy right now.
With this, I must also say, education, intelligence and preferred means of transportation has nothing to do with a good heart, sense of humour or ability to be a great human being.
It would be a real shame to see a person limit themselves by choosing only those relationships with those who are privileged in some way. You would surely lose out.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Use your own personal judgement to analyze the personality traits of a potential suiter, and let your instincts help you in making a wise decision on whether to trust this person with your number. There are a lot of psychos out there, players who just want to satiate their own personal indulgences, so look for a guy with good heart....give him the chance. You are less likely be heartbroken afterwards...

Answer 5

Everyone has the right to give or not give their phone number to whomever they choose.
Why would she even wonder about this? Say no once and let that be the end of it, tell your friend to tell the guy if he asks again she's already given him his answer and tell him to get lost, she doesn't need any more friends!
She owes him NO explanation whats-so-ever!
No means no and that's the end of it.

Answer 6

Of course she can say no! She doesn't have to give anyone her number that she doesn't want to. It sounds to me like he's starting to harass her, which definitely is uncalled for in a work environment. Have your friend take this issue to her boss and have him or her deal with the situation. That should stop everything.

Answer 7

not only can she, but it'd be best if she didn't...nothing good can happen from her giving it to him and it will only send the wrong message to him and drag things out even longer. Have her just tell the truth. Just tell the truth that she's a golddigger.
ps- I'm very successful- contact me

Answer 8

No, she doesn't have to give out her number just because someone asked for it. I had a similar experience. I kept telling him no he couldn't have my number but he kept asking anyway, so I said fine, give me your number and maybe I'll call you (I knew I never would) But it got him to leave me alone.
Men that thick headed scare me.

Answer 9

She has every right to say no, especially since she's not interested in this guy. But since he is her coworker, she needs to be polite to him since she will have to deal with him everyday and he could hurt her career.

If he keeps bugging her, she should just say, "I'm sorry, but I said no. I don't want you calling me after work hours. Please respect my decision." And if he continues, she should go talk to her boss about his behaviour. It's not acceptable for him to keep harrassing her when she's not interested and has said no to him already.

Answer 10

If you don't want to give someone your number, DON'T GIVE THEM YOUR NUMBER. You are in no way obligated to fraternize with someone you're not interested in. At the very least, she will just be leading him on and that isn't right.