How to trian a 3 year old to speak good proper words rather than bad ones they learned fr/their peers at sch?

Question

He's a male, extremely active during the day sometimes last nights. Please help, thank you everyone.

Answer 1

The best way is to model the behavior yourself.

And this age, the best response to any word or phrase you don't want used in your home is to give no reaction, but say

"our family doesn't say that, we say.... instead"

And a 3 y.o. only understands mostly the reaction a foul word gets, not really the meaning. If it is a foul word, then simply say

"that word can hurt people's feelings, please don't use it."

And a 3 y.o. will learn from those that he has the most interaction with - and in your situation it is his peers at daycare (and it is daycare, not school!) and it sounds like his peers have different values. Perhaps you need to look into options for exposing him to a different type of child.

Answer 2

Every time he uses an undesirable word, tell him "Oh, _____ is not a good word to use. Here, let me show you a better word instead". My daughter is three as well and we went through the same thing. Now we play word games where we pick a person or an object in the room and see how many words we can come up with to descibe it. It shows them the fun of language and they get so excited about the big words- that the bad ones dont matter as much

Answer 3

Teach him by example. Young children repeat everything they hear, a lot of the time not knowing what the words mean. Make sure that when you and any friends and family are around him that no one uses inappropriate language. When he does repeat something inappropriate that he learned from friends, calmly tell him that the word he used is not nice to say, and that in your family those words are never to be used. You could also help him by telling him a suitable word to use in replace of the bad word. For example, if he is using a cuss word when he is angry, tell him that he can say sugar or another word you find okay.
Good luck.

Answer 4

It's hard to keep your child from using words that his/her friends are using. You are never going to completely eliminate all the "bad" words. If a word seems funny to a child, he/she will use it. At three years old, most of the funny things kids talk about involve poop, pee or farts. And they are not mature enough to understand those topics are not usually socially acceptable conversation starters. One trick you might want to try is to introduce other words to try and occupy your kid's thoughts. One such way is to use a "word of the day". Have a dictionary available. At breakfast, pick one word a day. Say the word, explain what it means, have your son or daughter use that word in a sentence and tell them to use it as many times as possible. For each time they use it that day, they will earn a nickel (or more if you are in the financial situation to do so). When you pick him/her up from school, talk about the word and when it was used. Eventually, your kid will focus on the word of the day and eventually stop talking so much about poop, pee and farts.

Answer 5

My 3 year old is very expressive, and I haven't limited her TOO much, but some bad words and all swear words are out of the question... simply because of offending other people. She has a list of special words that she can say instead of swear words or bad words, my husband laughed and said that wouldn't keep her from swearing, but it sure did!!! She is proud to say her special words!!!!! make a huge deal about it, and it will sink in soon enough!!!

Answer 6

Make sure that you are saying the words that you want to hear him say. When he says something that you don't like tell him that is not a nice word and he should not use it . When they are that old they are learning new words constantly and will not always be aware that some words are unacceptable. So gentle correction at first and then reminders that certain words will not be allowed.

Answer 7

Try to ignore the bad words. Try not to correct "too much". And praise for the the good words.

That's the best way. My son kept saying "no way jose" not so bad, but he would say that and I would say "Oh you mean no thank you." And when he would say no thank you, I would make a huge deal about it and tell him he was growing up. He eventually forgot about "no way jose"

Answer 8

My husband and I don't swear around our little girl but when she comes home from visiting someone she tried saying a bad word, whenever we hear her say a bad word we tell her that word isn't nice, so when she hears someone say that word she tells them that is a bad word. You just have to keep reminding them that the word is not good to say.

Answer 9

Speak to him how you'd like thim to speak. You may need to correct him on the pronunciation over and over again, but he'll learn with time and practice. Good Luck

Answer 10

Three year olds should not be 'at school.' It's not good for kids under 5 to spend much time away from mommy.

Take him out of that ridiculous 'school' and stop exposing him to this. Otherwise, tell him that those words are not appropriate and just remind him when he uses him that your family doesn't use them. Tell him they offend some people and to be polite, we don't use them.