HELP should i go out with this dude.?

Question

Should i go with my ex’s brother? The beginning of 2006 he was asking me out and i said no. then i got w/ his brother in august for a little while. While i was w/ his brother he was still trying 2 talk 2 me. I felt he was backstabbing his brother & i told him how i felt about him doing that. After me and his brother broke up he asked me again and i said i'd think about it. what should i do? He told me his brother knows about him trying to talk 2 me & that he know the whole time. So should i believe him and & go w/ him or what? but if i do go w/ him wont that seem kinda hoeish since i dated his brother? After we broke up i heard he had a baby on the way & a girlfriend in another state. so when he tried to ask me back, I asked him about it & of course he denied it. His brother told me after the fact. i feel if he had true love 4 me he would have told me when me & his brother 1st got together.

So when I asked the brother why he waited until me and my ex break up to tell me that he told me he felt it wasn't his place to interfere w/ me & my ex. So I feel that if it wasn't "his place" to interfere then he shouldn’t of been trying 2 get w/ me b/c that was interfering.

but i think the brother will be real good in bed. b/c we go to school together and sometimes i sit with him and omg he can give really good hickey and the way he sits and they way he does them omg the verge of moaning.

i know i don't want to **** up there relationship.
but my ex got kicked out of the school i at this year so he wont see us. i at a career training center both schools come here and both brothers have the same class to gether right now so that what i'm worried about tell talk. and what if my ex come back to the my school next year will i lose his friendship if i cause mess between him and his brother. will i lose his brother's friendship. i mean going with his brother can be a good but there are so many things that can go wrong with it so i don't know what to do.

Answer 1

I wouldn't suggest it. one because its kinda harsh on your ex even if he seems fine with it on the outside, he just might not be showing his real feelings on the inside. Two you could just break the relationship between the two brothers. so i would just leave it if i were you.

Answer 2

NO! Get out and run away from trouble!! Really, Date 100 or more people to find your soul mate. Don't take seconds. Know that you are worth $$$$$ Millions and only take non loosers. Most people looking for love do not meet that first person around the corner! Date good people and have fun. Intimacy (Sexual)only clouds up the relationship. Find people through your friends and their friends and their friends and you will have 1000 people competing for you. If you look for tall dark and handsome what happens when they get short, fat and bald. If it is your soul mate, and you are in love; looks mean something but not everything. Always date people that are truthful, and no ties to other people out of state and not substance abusers or show abuse to other people. Never let anyone abuse you, not even one time. If someone hits you or yells at you it only gets worse. Put that person at the bottom of your list for ever. If they change with the help of therapy, there may be a chance to get back together after they deal with their lies or abuse. ( I still don't think they are marriage material) Let someone else have their problems. There are 100 or more people designed to care about you and worship you as a great person. They think you are a great find and would like to date and possibly marry you and live a happy life together sharing and having fun and always truthful to the relationship. Be happy with being yourself first and you will attract a multitude of people. You have to demand that a friend will treat you as #1 from the beginning. If not, and you feel neglected because of their goals, dump them, walk away and smile because you are going to meet another mate from the possible 999 that are waiting for you.

Answer 3

First you need to find out the truth about the baby and girlfriend in another state - you have rumors on one side and possible lies on another, so you need to get the facts. If he does have a girlfriend/baby and lied about it, that means he's a cheater and a liar and you should stay away from him. If it is just rumor, then it's okay.

Ask your ex for his opinion - not his permission, but his opinion. Maybe he doesn't know what his brother is doing, maybe it doesn't bother him, maybe it does, maybe there is something about his brother he can warn you about. Take his opinion into consideration.

The one thing you never mentioned is if you WANT to date this guy - are you interested in him at all, or just flattered by his attentions? You should only date him if you are genuinely interested in him, not just because he's there. There's plenty of other guys out there, so if you have any misgivings about this, save yourself the drama and stay out of it.

Answer 4

I'm sorta confused...
You originally told him no when he first asked, and one would believe you had your reasons (i.e. not attracted to him...too short...too tall..bad breath, etc.) Once you made your decision to date the other brother, this "recurring cold sore" should have had enough respect for you, his brother, and himself to stop asking you out. His lack of respect for you and his brother should ring bells. He truly could care less about your feelings and concerns, and more about his needs...and it is truly a case of his needs. Knowing that his constant pursuit of you would make you uncomfortable did not deter him from trying to be with you...but does he really want you, or is there an alternative motive? You don't have to have an answer to that , because you will never know the truth. His professing his love for you sounds more like possession, if he truly loved you (yes fellas...I'm gonna say it ) he would have wanted you to be happy, and his brother also. We sometimes confuse love with possession. When we feel we must have someone, and it aches to be without them, and we are persistant in our attempt to have them, it is only a sign that we are not complete. Our happiness is connected with someone else, and it can only be achieved by being with that person.
Now...all that blah blah I just wrote amounts to nothing. Just felt like seeing how many mistakes I'd make while typing; the answer to your question is right their in front of you...Stevie Wonder could see it...the fact that you even considered whether or not you'd be a "ho" for going out with both is the answer. Of all the possible answers, you have contemplated whether or not you'd be a "ho" if you went out with both. Are you? If you do, your gonna be the topic of conversation. And how you gonna feel when the cousin ask you out?

Neither one of these two care about you honestly, move on and find someone who truly wants to be with you, and you "know" it where it counts...then if you want to be a "ho" you can be his ( and vice versa) behind closed doors, but you'll be proud of who you see in the mirror in the morning...regardless of what you did the nite before...

Answer 5

I suggest that you leave both of them alone, and find another guy.
You may have picked the wrong brother to go out with at first, and now it is too late to try and go out with the other one.
A mistake made, and a lesson to learn.

Answer 6

no!!! n by the way ure describing the brother n the way he does the hickeys is just as nasty as you if u were to get with his brother. u dont see the pic here do, u?? if ur ex already knew that his brother wanted to get with you , why didnt he bring it up to u to see how u felt about it?? it seems like to me that his brother also wants to get in your PANts!! SO he can go back to his brother and bragg about how easy and nasty you are for messing with both of them. u need to NOT mess with them at all!!

Answer 7

I really don't think you should go with your ex brother because you don't know how that could affect your ex I mean because if you do that you could be messing up the family and then neither one of them would want to talk to you tell your ex brother that you really don't wanna do that to his brother and that if he really cared about you and his brother he would understand and tell him you would still like to be frenz if that is kool

Answer 8

No way. you would always be the one that fcuked up the relationship btween them. Things would not b the same for them. they are brothers you can't come btween that. If he is like that with his own brother imagine how dishonest he would be with you.

Answer 9

Honey, both of these guys are losers, and you should just turn
over a new leaf! Drop both of them--begin over by looking
for a higher-caliber kind of guy who will respect and love you.

Answer 10

Hey cookie. If you ever get married with the guy and then have kids w him. You kids' cousins (your husband's brother's kids) will always tell your kids about how their dad did you before your kid's dad?
Was that confusing?