Is it too much to ask for my boyfriend to show some appreciation every now and then? I just feel like he takes me for granted. Every now and then he'll say how much I mean to him, but every day it's just business as usual and sometimes I feel like an obligation to him. Is this what happens in all relationships as they age? What can I do to make sure this isn't the pot calling the kettle black here? How can I show him that I enjoy being his gf and talking to him and that I value him and our relationship?
2007-03-09 06:11:09 · 4 answers · asked by graybear 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've already tried telling him how I feel and he doesn't see a change from how we were before. Also, we're in a long distance relationship, which makes it even harder. Please don't tell me they don't work because I know that, but I want it to and I think we're both willing to make it work.
2007-03-09 08:21:35 · update #1
This is very much normal in all relationships. Men especially tend to not show our thx and gratitude for what our wives do for us. If he felt like you were an obligation he would get rid of you. Just remind him that sometimes you like him to tell you he appreciates you and what you do. He needs to make a conscious effort to let you know.
2007-03-09 06:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you've been in a relationship for a while, it is easy to fall into a routine. But that doesn't mean that the relationship is doomed to be boring and ritualistic.
Just have an honest discussion with your boyfriend about how you feel. Many times, guys just don't see things the way we women do. It might seem like he's taking you for granted, but he doesn't notice that anything is different...because that's how comfortable he is with you. (And that's a good thing at heart.)
Make sure you never miss an opportunity to give a goodbye kiss and an "I Love You". Make him his favorite food for dinner every now and again. Rather than asking him to take out the trash, do it yourself once in a while. Very little tasks end up meaning a lot. If you start putting in more effort, perhaps he'll follow suit.
2007-03-09 14:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly are the things that he does that make it seem like he doesn't appreciate you?
If you want to show him how much he means to you, remember... it's the little things that count.
Call him just to say hi or "I love you".... hold hands with him.... just tell him you feel grateful you have found someone like him.
2007-03-09 14:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say good bye to him...when he lose you...then he will learn to appreciate...most human don't know how to appreciate...me too...
2007-03-09 14:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by qIn ShI hUaNg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋