I have liked this guy for 6 months. When he walks by my desk at work I literally have stopped breathing about 3 times. He is beautiful and funny and smart. The problem is he got a divorce in September from a girl with the same name as me. He has a young daughter (which isn't a problem with me). He barely speaks to me but I have such an intense thing for him. I am leaving for a new job in a week and I don't think I can leave here without knowing--you know what if???
What do you think I should do???
2007-03-09 06:04:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may be taking things easy right now, since he is newly divorced. I would ask him if you could stay in touch after you've gone. Ask him for an email address or a phone number and tell him how much you've enjoyed working with him. See how he responds. If he gives you his info and smiles, its a good sign.
2007-03-09 06:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Laneymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 1st thought was don't fish off the company pier, but you're leaving, so it's all good!
I met my (now) wife at school. She was graduating in THREE days before I got up the courage to ask her out. I know I would have regret it, (easy to say now) but what was the worse that could have happened? In three days should be be gone.
You're leaving, so take advantage of it. I hate head games, and I bet he does too. Lay your cards on the table. Don't go overboard, but express your feelings. If he's into you, he'll appreciate it, and you guys will be able to move forward easily. If he's not, well, you got your feelings off your chest and are able to go on to your new job without the "what if" regret.
When you DO talk to him, try to be a bit discrete about it. Remember, you'll be gone, but he won't be.
Good luck!
2007-03-09 14:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During your last week, stop by his office or wait till he walks by your desk. Then tell him that you're leaving for another job and wanted to say goodbye and thank him for being so nice to you while you were here. Then take the plunge (because you're right, you got nothing to lose here) and tell him you'd like to stay in touch with him and would he like to go to coffee/dinner/etc on your last day? If you're feeling really brave and think he's receptive, go whole hog and say, "Now that we're not coworkers anymore, I was hoping it wouldn't be inappropriate if I asked you out on a date?"
Go for it!
2007-03-09 14:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so sweet to see someone so honest and sincere, but this what you need to do. I believe you need to tell him that you really attracted to him and that you are leaving for another job and I will not be complete without you in my life. That get him in the mix and he will feel the same and you will have the beautiful and smart man in the palm of your hand.
2007-03-09 14:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lateasha b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, the worst think in life is to go through it without knowing...hey what if?
So just go to his office and sit down and say to him you know what..I just want you to know I am leaving fora new job in a week and I couldn't leave without telling you that I think you are beautiful and funny and smart and I admire you. And I just can't walk away from this job without you knowing that.
Getting that off your chest, you can walk away and not ever wonder the what ifs...
Good luck
2007-03-09 14:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by tropicalg77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got a new job in a week? then do not look back and move on with your life. it has been 6 months you say? If something was going to happen it would have already. Why do you want a man that has baggage and built in problems? Forget this guy, move ahead with your life and look towards the bright new future.
2007-03-09 14:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he'd liked you he'd spent more time with you. Or maybe he doesnt wanna get involved with women again for awhile. Divorce leeds to stress ,money problems, custody problems probably better you stay out of the picture.
2007-03-09 14:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by I race cars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him tell him that your leaving for a new job and if you really like him ask him out for coffee or some thing!
2007-03-09 14:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by jenn k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Nothing ventured, nothing gained! Maybe leave a letter in his desk, if you are sure no one will find it. Or, when you say goodbye to everyone, make sure he is the last one. Ask him to carry something to your car for you, hug him, and say you would REALLY like to stay in touch..whisper it in his ear, real sexy...Good luck to you sweetie!
2007-03-09 14:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by Angel333... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask to have coffee or just to get after work ( if can get other co-workers to go 'would be a good idea). Then just feel him out, and you'll know by the he acts ( if he close or distant) weather or not he's interested.
2007-03-09 14:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by realenough27 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋