This is about a guy I asked ?'s about before. We had a relationship, it got bad, arguing, & a HEATED argument where i insulted his mom & son deeply. i apologized for it & we were ok, i was VERY GENEROUS to him, his son & his mom. but he didn't so much as send me a xmas card. my b-day came, he didn't send a b-day card, nothing. then he LIED & said sent one did but i never got it. Since then, his son passed away. i was 1 of the 1st people he called 4 support. i supported him heavily. he also lost his job some time ago & i supported him then. i sent him $$$ bcz i knew he was broke. this was in december. he asked me today to lend him $100. i sent it RIGHT AWAY by western union & told him to go pick it up. NOW he can call me 5-6 times in one shot & answer my text messages. before he couldn't do that, i'd hardly hear from him. i thought about that & how he did me on my b-day & xmas, and i canceled the western union and didn't send him a DIME. i told him WHY i canceled it. was i wrong??
2007-03-09 06:03:25 · 12 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing. He seems to be getting too comfortable borrowing money from you and that is a VERY bad sign. You also mention he lost his job some time ago. That leads me to believe it has been a while since he has been employed. You have to cut this financial connection off and he has to get back on his feet. There is no problem with you giving him support and time to vent by talking to him, but there is no need why you should be giving so much financial assistance him and his mother. None at all.
2007-03-09 06:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by yerp85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong. There are several emotions brewing that no one should judge all that has happened. You have already apologized for the insults and tried to get on again. then everything else. You just should take the time to have a good cry and get some rest. Hopefully the sun will shine tomorrow. Hang with family and close friends until you get stronger.
2007-03-09 16:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man that would b hard well i wouldve gon ahead and sent the money just to let him know that i cared but other then that if i didnt hear from him again id just leave it alone...........if he doesnt call then he oviously doesnt want nuttin to do w u sorry for ben so blunt but hey i say that if a guy isnt willing to put as much effort into a relationship rather its friends or more then hit the road jake
2007-03-09 14:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Shi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you arent wrong. You guys moved on from that whole argument by the apology. And it seems like you did the right thing by helping him out the first time around, it sounds like he's cheating you out of money now.
2007-03-09 14:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by *LaUrEN* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is going to treat you liokethat then i think that you were right. If he can't even call you to let you know that he appreciates you then he isn't worth your time. I say you are smart for doing what you did and now all that is left for you to do is move on with your life, And don't worry about the loser he'll find someone else to treat that way.
2007-03-09 14:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by lilangel02babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing you for money.
It is OK to give someone money once, in good faith. The second time you give out your cash, you had better be getting something real for it.
See how well he treats you, once he realizes you are not a money tree.
~Donkey Hotei
2007-03-09 14:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, but it might be wise to figure out what your intentions are in this, then you can be clear about your actions. Then at least you know why you are doing what you are doing and for what cause in you (relationship? friend? being really you despite consequences?). and then actions wouldn't be (or seem) harsh because you know your true reason for doing what you did.
2007-03-09 14:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by a guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you obivously deserve better then that. It's his fault he is broke and he isn't leagally on any support from you. By the sounds of it he is a jerk that you should forget.
2007-03-09 14:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by nicpiperloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i think you were right. To me it seems like he is just using you for money and a shouder to lean on. but only you can decide that. But i think you did a good thing.
2007-03-09 14:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by amber.lynz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are always mooching off of their friends. This guy is one of them.
2007-03-09 14:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋