ahh! I hav a bf for the first time in 3 years. it was sooo akward when he asked me out, but now im so nervous and stuff, he is absolutely adorable (personality), I just dont no if i can see myself kissing him, and im not like really physically attracted to him. is this bad? I was very happy that he asked me out, but I just cant get over how AKWARD that was. and now im on spring break so i dont see him for 2 weeks.
2007-03-09 06:00:28 · 17 answers · asked by Lindsey S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why are you going out with him if you're not attracted to him? that's not good
2007-03-09 06:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Shakespeare, William 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the people we least expect it wind up being the ones we fall inlove with. It is important to have some physical attraction to our mates but if they have other things that interst you, sometimes that person tends to become MORE attractive with time, not because they physically change but because we have delvelped a love for them and see them inside and out.
For example, when I first met my bf 5 years ago, I thought he was just ok as far as looks go, but now when I see him, he's actually pretty HOT looking. How did this happen. Because I know who he is and what he's all about and that makes him even more attractive to me.
If the kissing is what your worried. don't push it, its right when you feel it.
When you get back from spring break and see him, all will tell. If you see him and your not the bit excited, more on to someone new. But give love a chance.
2007-03-09 14:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a civilized way of finding the right person with whom you want to settle down with. No one says that a guy you are dating has to be your boyfriend just because you dated. A commitment at some point during the dating process has to be made in order for him to become "Boyfriend". If you are not sure after a few dates, tell him it is not working out for you. You do not want to continue dating, and thank him for showing interest. Nothing more need be said.
2007-03-09 14:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I would give it a little time, go out on a few dates and then see how it goes. You may grow to love him or realize that you will never be physically attracted to him. Only time will tell. Good luck! and have fun on Spring break!! (oh and it didn't work out with mine lol)
2007-03-09 14:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the nicest guys are the ones we are least attracted to. It's loving the "Bad Boy" syndrome.
In any event let it happen naturally. You can't force feelings.
I can tell you that as an older adult, looks fade & the niceness is lasting.
See how you feel during the break. You just might miss him.
2007-03-09 14:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then why did u said yes in going around with him if u are going to feel akward???Just try it out....don't break up with him...cause if not u are going to regret it later!!!
Good Luck!!
and don't do crazy stuff in spring break!!
2007-03-09 14:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by J[o]a[N]n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're needy and just want a bf b/c u haven't had one in 3 yrs and are grateful someone asked you out.
If u r not physically attracted to him and he doesn't have a lot of money then it will never work out and you shouldn't drag it out and hurt him.
2007-03-09 14:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This have a Barf written all over it! this seems to me that you just don't have any training and you have to have a couple of thing to learn before you start to get out in the field. So, 2 weeks can be plenty of time to learn the love moves.
2007-03-09 14:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lateasha b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not attracted to him. How can such a relationship last? Be honest with him cos you're just playing him & stringing him along & that's not fair to him. Tell him and move on NOW.
2007-03-09 14:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do what you heart desires the most, because if you took advise from someone that you barely know and never knew your place and you took there advise and actually broke up with him..and you regreted it..then you never got him back..do what your heart has told you..not what other hearts are saying to you....Good Luck Gurl with it all!!
2007-03-09 14:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't physical attracted to him, there will be problems for him in the future.
2007-03-09 14:04:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋