is it normal?

Question

by brother is 17, high school senior, and i am 15, high school freshman. He is dating this sophmore girl.
is it normal for me to cry the first time i saw them really talking and showing amotions. he is my portector.

Answer 1

Yes, it's perfectly normal! (Don't listen to anyone who tells you it's weird. Americans are weird because they don't value family enough). What you're going through is known as separation anxiety--it's like you're a little afraid of losing him. It's ok for you to ask him for reassurance that he's still there for you. That will help you adjust. Just wait until YOU start dating--watch him get really really nervous!

Answer 2

I don't think it's abnormal, but I don't think it's very common either.... but that doesn't make it a 'bad' thing.

I would guess that you're a particularly intuitive person. Some people get rather emotional about "end of an era" type situations. In this case, maybe you're already missing the innocence of youth that you are both about to leave behind. Most siblings grow apart during their late teens, early twenties, and perhaps you're sensitive to that fact and are missing that close connection.

Don't panic though, when all is said and done, you and your brother will likely grow closer together again in a few more years, and since you'll both have grown and changed during that time, that reunion will have that fresh feeling of a new friendship as well as the comforting nostalgia of the childhood years you shared with each other.

Growing up is both exciting and scary at the same time, but if you focus on the positive, you're sure to enjoy the adventure.

Answer 3

Don't listen to what these other people are saying!! There is nothing incestuous in your reaction. It can be compared to a girl who gets jealous when she sees her divorced father with a new woman; it is what he represents that stirs up your emotions (as you said, protection), and it has nothing to do with romantic feelings! So, the other respondents should get a grip!

Sweetie, you're probably feeling threatened because you wonder if this new girl will take up a lot of his time and energy - the same time and energy you are used to seeing devoted to you. But your brother will have someone in his life at some point (and so will you), and in no way does that imply that his feelings for you will change.

Even if there has to be an adjustment time-wise (i.e. he will want to go out more often because of the new girl, etc.), you should come to an agreement so that your relationship doesn't suffer (such as, the two of you will go out every x day and talk).

What you should NOT do is treat the girl badly because you're intimidated by her role in yours and your brother's life. Be as nice to her as you can, get to know her, and you'll be fine!

No, you're NOT abnormal!

Answer 4

I don't hear anything like a creepy relationship here, it sounds very sweet. If you think about your feelings for a while, you are probably just sad that your brother has another girl in his life, worried that she will replace you as the one he looks after the most. It could be joy, too, seeing him happy, being happy for him. And sometimes tears just come up from a powerful sense of overwhelm or confusion. That's all you know how to do because you don't know what to think...all kinds of feelings at once.

Nothing wrong with that! But it isn't true. People have room for different kinds of relationships in their lives. You will always be his sister, but the girlfriends will come and go.

Answer 5

Yeah, I would think its normal, I have a sister 2 years younger than me, and as any guy is, I remember always being really protective of her when she was dating. I'm sure she felt the same even when I was just with friends and not spending time with her.
You just have to learn to be happy for him because it is something new and exciting for him to experience, and you guys will still be close when he comes to you to talk about their problems, because all relationships have problems....

Answer 6

Yes it is normal... Its quiet normal to cry at silly situations like that.. My sister just had a baby girl the other day. Im a real hardass to be honest, tough as nails.. and guess what- cried later when I was alone, I was so happy for her and couldn't help it. This is the first time I've cried in about 15yrs.. Im 23, and male

Answer 7

yes,

It is your first indication that you are not the only girl or love in his life. Your seeing him grow up and sometimes that means grow "away" but it doesn't have to be like that. He has new interests, but I am sure he still loves his lil sis.

Just make sure you don't try to smother him or make him feel bad cause that can cause sibling rivary. Give him room and make plans together for you and him so you can still hand out with your big bro

Answer 8

I understand what your trying to say and its basically he is the one you rely like your rock or something along those lines, you know someone who fights for you when your in trouble but he's your bother he will grow emotionally to other people because its odd for him to be emotionally attached to you and he will leave you to defend yourself someday, realize that. But, you know thats life you got to do things without your brother...he isnt your boyfriend.
But how you said it REALLY weirded me and everyone else out so watch how you say things next time!

Answer 9

I don't think that's normal...lol...I've never heard of such a thing. He's not your boyfriend, he's your brother so be happy for him right now. It's probably not that serious anyway. If he does show feelings to another girl, they are different feelings that he would show towards you anyway. You are his sister and I doubt he would let anyone come between you guys. Don't overreact!

Answer 10

Yes, it is normal. Youre just worried that he will show less intrest in you and yalls relationship. but as somebody else said... sisters are forever. he will always be there to protect you so dont worry. and dont listen to all these other mean ppl who are saying mean things to you, theyre immature.