My husbands grandmother has really bad lungs from smoking. She is even on oxygen. She constantly goes to the hospital. But she keep smoking!! She lies to her doctors saying shes not. In my eyes she is doing all this to her self. But my husband thinks I should feel sorry for her....HELP
2007-03-09 05:46:57 · 16 answers · asked by Emberleigh 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Angelblossom : fyi it is not to late to save her. i have 2 grandmothers who have the same problem.... my grandmother on my dads side quit and she added 7 YEARS to her life.... my grandmother on my moms side did the same and added 5 years. so you clearly have NO IDEA what you are talking about.
2007-03-09 07:53:34 · update #1
the end of man is sometimes by his own doing.
like Noah you can preach 120 years,..and the whole world will still be lost!
2007-03-09 05:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OK for one she is old right . and for 2 she most likely has COPD . and for 3 if she has smoked all the way up until now well its to late to save her.if your not a smOKer you will never understand the struggle with this disease ok its not fun. I'm sure if she could go back in time she would of never started smoking if she new what she knows now . im a smoker and i quit and started and quit and started its the nicotine, my mom passed away 2 1/2 yrs ago and 63 from COPD from smoking you think i would know better. but I'm sure his grandma lungs are so bad she knows something you guys dint know and if that's what makes her happy then let her be . really think about this what good is it gonna do her to stop now the damage is done and with COPD she will never get better only worse from here on out.accept it and enjoy the time you do have with her cause COPD can take ya at any time its a early death my grandma , my aunt and my mom all died at 6o,something from it . if she is old;der than that then shwe out lived alot of people who died from COPD. ok so let her be and enjoy the rest of the life she has left.sorry but just speaking the truth.
2007-03-09 07:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by angelblossom1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May you never suffer from an addiction. It is not possible for your grandmother to control her smoking. She may want to; she certainly knows is it bad for her. But when she started smoking, people didn't completely understand the consequences, and now she really doesn't have a choice if she is addicted. Nicotine is a potent drug, and some people say it is even more addictive than heroin. What's happening to your grandmother is a very common story. I have watched three uncles die under very similar circumstances. So give your grandmother a break, and all the love you can.
2007-03-09 05:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel "Overly" Sorry, Though like many, Smoking is hard as hell to get away from, especially if you are one.. I think just understanding the fact will help and leave it alone.
She has to go get oxygen for the damage done, then so be it, Yes it is her problem. Let her live with it.
Nothing much you can say or do. Remember tho, It isn't that easy to quit, so she still smokes...
2007-03-09 06:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by GBabes333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband wants you to feel sorry because it's his mom, and he's having a hard time dealing with the fact that she probably won't be here much longer. So the support that he wants you to give, he probably wants more for himself. Unfortunately men have this macho idea that they'll be wimps if they ask for help, so they try to get it in other ways. Maybe as far as he's concerned you should show that you're sorry for him because he has to deal with the situation, and it's unfair to him (his mother's habits). Secondly, I'm a smoker, and I do not believe for one second that you should feel sorry for his mom. She may not have intended to fall so ill, but since she has, she isn't trying to help herself by continuing her unhealthy habit. The bottom line is she's an adult and she new the repercussions when she started smoking, (and i'm sure over the years the risks have increased over the years) yet she continues of her own free will. How can you fell sorry for that?
2007-03-09 05:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by krazyshadowkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just terrible. Can't you look past your judgmental feelings for one minute and see that this woman obviously means a lot to the family. She has an addiction that is very hard to stop. She is old and set in her ways and was smoking way before people realized how terrible it was for the body.
Stop being so selfish and think of the other people in the family that do love her and how they might be feeling. This woman is looking into an open grave and you want to sit there and judge and condemn - fine wife you are!
2007-03-09 05:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say ADDICTED?! She's staring a particularly nasty and painful death in the face and the last thing she can muster up the courage to do is give up her addiction this late in the game.
My own mother did the same thing...suffered from emphysema for years, literally drowning to death in her own phlegm, but she could never shake the addiction to nicotine.
I don't think she's looking for your sympathy or pity. I think, like any other grandmother, she's hoping to spend time with you...to share as much as she can before she dies. To ignore her because you disapprove of her actions or to show disgust towards her, well....imagine if she ever treated you that way.....
Peace.
2007-03-09 06:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a smoker and I know that it will make me sick and I dont want anyone to feel sorry for me because it was a choice I made like it is you grandmothers. You should not need to feel sorry for her.
2007-03-09 05:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Countess Bathory 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not your job to bring out emotions in yourself that are not there. You could try to understand her more. I smoke and it is so very difficult to stop. And, yes, I know that I'm killing myself. But unless a non-smokers been in a smokers shoes.....
She does not need your sympathy. It does nothing. But she does need your kindness and acceptance.
2007-03-09 06:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow -
thats nuts.
My grandmother had emphysema and of course I felt sorry for her. But she quit 20 years prior too.
She was not lying.
I think I would point out to everyone, small kids to. Don't ever smoke you will look like grandma and you might turn out to be a liar too!
2007-03-09 05:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No you shouldn't feel sorry for her. She knows she needs to quit smoking, but she does it anyways, it's real hard to feel sorry for a person that's doing that to themselves.
2007-03-09 06:00:08 · answer #11 · answered by Sweet Pea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋