and u love a girl, would u ever tell her u dnt want a relationship with her, because u dnt want all the stress, and u just want to be friends with benifits????????????? but u still tell her u care about her and that you love her still... im soo confused so if any guys can answer this honestly, i will be very happy!! ;)) thanx
2007-03-09 05:44:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesn't want the commitment but still wants to hit it. clear?
2007-03-09 05:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, dude, this is a cop out and a fear of commitment. Who says there has to be stress. I was in a bad relationship for 5 years. Then for the next 4 I just screwed around... Got is some trouble, did some heavy drinking etc... Then I started to see this girl. No plans, just the screwin around thing and poof, I started to like her, but didn't want the crap. So I told her point blank every thing about me, past and present. I told her how I hat conflict, jealousey and cheaters.... I told her no drama and that I look at other girls and I like my friends weather she does or not. I said I would be the same way with her. Well guess what? 11 years married, 2 beautiful kids, a dog, a swimming pool, a house on a coroner lot across the street from the school. And My best friend with Benifits.... Give love a chance. If your the guy... If you are hte girl, tell him to get real or get lost...
2007-03-09 05:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are afriad of comittment. They may have feelings for a girl but they dont want to be completly committed. I think some guys over think things so they just say that they want to be friends with benifits. I can understand this being guy. Just recently I really liked this girl but I did not wanted to make things official because I did not want to come completly committed, not because I wanted another girl, I just did not want to be tied down to a girl at that time. I hope this helps.
2007-03-09 05:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't tell that to the woman I love. I would want a relationship with her. The guy you're mentioning is confused about what love is if all he wants are the "benefits." He's pretty much just stringing you along and does "not" really love you. Love is the total package, you can't just pick and choose the type of relationship you want with the girl/guy if you so-called say that you "love" her/him.
2007-03-09 05:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Gunner For Life! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well any guy who want to have a relationship as "Friends with benifits" is alright in the decision making process. Being friends with benifits is the same as going out, its just that the guy or girl will have 1 more girl with him.
2007-03-09 05:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by mcwhiteboy6775 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that every relationship comes with its own stress package... if you care about her, then you must learn to deal with the stress involved. Friends with benefits is just another way of been possessive. you gotta think about what you want friend.
2007-03-09 05:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lord_poseidon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way in this world that she will understand that... I do know exactly what you mean and how u feel though. To be honest, if I thought I would get away with it, I'd go for it. Test the water first, be careful becausr u dont want to lose the friendship.;...
2007-03-09 05:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Point 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
If you love her, you want to be with her, then you have to take the good AND the bad in every relationship.
The only way I see this working is unless she's okay with the whole friends w/ benefits thing, and doesn't love you, but is just using you for sex in the meantime, but is dating other guys and finding someone she really wants to be exclusive with.
2007-03-09 05:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Fabulously Broke in the City 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from that dude... he is using you, and a guy with a strong heart who cares about you for real and is less selfish would not find you attractive if he knew you let this happen to yourself.
and that masturbator guy up there really needs a different profile picture, that's horrible (and not very impressive lol)
2007-03-09 05:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he just wants the benefits. If he loved you, he would want the relationship
2007-03-09 05:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want a commitment... that means he doesn't love you, you will never have a relationship... QUIT having sex with him now! Move on.... if you want friends with benefits.. find it somewhere where you aren't emotionally involved.
2007-03-09 05:48:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋