were both 17. this girl has pillow fights with me, puts her photo into my phone as wallpaper, calls up my friends, even parents for jokes, even though i dont find it amusing, always laughs at my jokes, she gets very close to me, and wont move away.....and likes to touch me alot, and play with things i have. i get mixed signals though, as sometimes during the day she wont talk to me at all, cause she studies, but when were together she cant stop talking, and offering me food, and drinks, and going out places.One thing she does alot is curls up and goes to sleep for like a minute,and then wakes up, and does it again......whats all this mean???she also tells me about times when shes stressed at school and so forth....one thing thats really wierd though, she likes to know what her name is on my phone when it rings???.........need help, im from canada btw guys. I like this girl heaps, and need her to know that, cause im really scared of losing her to someone else.
2007-03-09 05:43:16 · 8 answers · asked by d p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she just told me the other day, that this guy is after her, and that she doesnt know what to do, and she was wondering what i thought???......im hurting inside, but dont know if i should go for it or not??? she said it was an ex of hers who wants to try again. Also, i asked her for lunch once, and she never replied, then the same day she spoke to me later on, and acted as if nothing had happened, playing dumb of course, and didnt even mention me asking her for lunch via txt.
2007-03-09 05:43:33 · update #1
I think she likes you quite a bit too. She told you about the other guy because she wants to see if you will declare your attentions to her. She is trying to tell you how she fells but she just isn't brave enough, it's so hard to tell someone you care about them because it involve being vulnerable to them ,and it is hard to trust people with your heart. I am going through that right now. Try to be up front and honest with her, it will be scary, but the greater the risk, the greater the reward, they say.
2007-03-09 05:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by scoutredneckfluffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok from a girls perspective i would say that she totally likes you, and if she didnt she wouldnt care what her name said on your phone when she calls you. youre both young (i dont mean like super young but young) and shes probably scared because she does like you so much. how long has this type of relationship occured between the 2 of you? if its a significant amount of time and you are comfortable with her enough to talk about personal things like your family, and things wouldnt tell your normal aquaintence friends then i think that you should tell her how you feel. thats really the only thing thats going to let you find out how she feels and take it to the next level. its hard and its scarey but if you really dont want to lose her then its definately worth it. and if she says she not ready to be exclusive then i would just give your relationship more time to blossom which it sounds like it will. but dont let her lead you on either.. like if its a year later and things are exactly the way they are now then maybe you should find someone that suits you better and wants the same relationship you want. but i dont think that will happen it sounds like your at the funnest part of a great relationship -the beginning- when things are new, flirty, fun, and your friendship (the foundation for a wonderful relationship) is really developing. goodluck:) oh and ps the guy thing shes telling you about (how he likes her or whatever), i may be wrong, but that probably means that she wants you to be a little jealous of some other guy liking her;)
2007-03-09 14:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by ginabina44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird that she won't talk to you when she's studying, that's just her being focused on school work when she should be.
As for the rest, I think that she does like you. Mentioning other boys is a way to nudge you to say "No, don't get back together with him, date me."
And it's possible that she didn't get the text message -- technology only goes so far, you know. Try talking to her face-to-face to ask for a date, that will work much better. Go ahead and ask her out -- at least then you'll know if she's interested in you or not.
2007-03-09 13:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, first of all, you can't lose what you don't have. She's not your girlfriend yet, so you can't lose her. Second, there are plenty of girls out there, and you have plenty of time to grow up and experience life and meet tons of girls. So, don't act like she's the only girl in the world - she isn't, and if you treat her that way, she will think you're needy and clingy and she'll definitely go for other guys.
OK.. on the other hand, if you don't act needy, and play it cool, you have a good change to get into a more 'intimate' relationship with her.
Here's the situation: she sees you like a buddy - even like a girls' best friend... to put it bluntly, that makes you a 'dog'... so you don't have anything to lose.. So, since you want her for a more intimate relationship, you need to ditch that 'buddy' category. Stop seeing her, and don't talk to her for hours and listen to her problems - that is what's making you her 'buddy therapist'.. you don't want to be in that category.. So, go out with other friends, and chill out. Stop being her shoulder to cry on. And given enough time, she will want to see you, and then you tell her you can't be her 'buddy' anymore, because you have a 'conflict of interest'.
This is the way it works. She is interested in you, but there is no 'sexual tension'. Only 'sexual tension' will allow you to get into a more intimate relationship. To have sexual tension, you need to turn up the polarity - your 'male' polarity as opposed to her 'female' polarity. If you stay too close, there is no polarity. If you stay aloof and keep her away (even push her away at times), it creates the sexual tension and mystery, and polarity. She is still not sure about her feelings about you, and that's because you guys are too close. Separate yourselves, and it will create clarity because it will trigger the polarity and sexual tension in her mind. With proper calibration of sexual tension, she'll be chasing you all the time - so, be careful what you wish, because it can come true.
Good luck. If you want to get sexual with her, be a Man... don't be her 'best friend'.
2007-03-09 14:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE LIKES U. no doubt about that she probably is telling you that there is another guy to see if you're intrested just let her know how you feel as she probably feels the same way about you...
Good Luck
2007-03-09 13:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she asked you for your opinion on what she should do...but what she was really asking for was you to tell her that you are into her. All signs point to yes, she likes you...more than likely as more than a friend.
2007-03-09 13:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bye her something nice, Take her on a date.studie with her, take her to a movie. spend alot of time with her. thats all i would do to my man
2007-03-09 13:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Angel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she wants to be a friend wuh benefits
you knoe?
but not acually go wuh yus
2007-03-09 13:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋