What ran him off?

Question

long story. i had a b/f, got along great for a few months. everything was wonerful. he told me he was falling in love w/ me, etc. then 2 days after that, he's not talking to me. I asked him a stupid ? and p!ssed him off. that is why he got mad. so we went a few weeks w/ almost no interaction. i would text him ALL the time and even call. he never answered my calls and only every now and again text me back. there were a few times however that he would txt me and say he missed me. i would write back, miss u too. but then the next day, i would txt him and he wouldn't respond! that type thing happened a few times. finally i had enough and told him if he didn't CALL me like an adult and stop acting 10 it was over. he never did, so i called him. not once, like 20 times. he never answered, but i got a text that said he was done. my ? is, did me acting like a stalker run him off? or was it a combination of both? if i leave him alone and don't call or txt do u think he'll eventually call?

Answer 1

I sincerly doubt it was anything *you* did. This guy sounds like he has some serious emotional issues. You are much better off without him, trust me.

Though, honestly, once you said it was over, you probably should have never have called him back. Quit doing the "push-pull" thing, don't send guys mixed signals, especially when it comes to relationships.

If a guy doesn't want to take up any of the slack in a relationship, you need to start doing some serious reconsideration.

He may try to call you back, out of the blue, a few weeks, or months from now, saying he still loves you and wants to get back together. Don't believe him, tell him you have better things to do with your time, and hang up on him.

Good luck!
~Donkey Hotei

Answer 2

It may have been the constant calling and texting but I think there is something that your missing. What exactly upset him about the question, of course you probably couldnt know that because instead of talking it out like an adult he choose to not communicate at all. My guess is he may have realized that a serious relationship wasnt for him or maybe he didnt get the response he was looking for from you when he said he was falling in love. Its a number of things that could have shut him down but either way if he isnt going to talk to you when he has a problem, then thats probably not the best situation for you.

Answer 3

Gal, he enjoyed being chased cos it's flattering & good for his ego. He is stringing you along that's why he's texting you once in a while. And you're falling for it thinking he might want to get back.

He has as much said it's over at least 3 times here, even to your ultimatum that if he doesn't reply that it's over. Well he didn't reply - that is his answer to you that it's over.

Wake up, stop your silly behaviour and stop making a fool of yourself over this man. He doesn't want you back in his life. How many times do you need to hear it before you actually get it?!

If he does call (just to string you on), hang up please. Have some self respect for he sure don;t respect you one bit. Why pine over such an *******.

Oh, and stop that psychotic behaviour. He basically stopped talking to you 2 days after saying he loved you. This tells me he regretted saying those words. It is his way of breaking up with you. He doesn't love you. Accept that and move on.

Answer 4

He sounds very childish. Would want to keep putting up with this everythime you piss him off. First off when say you're going to do something do it. He might have called. You told him it was over if he didn't call you should have waited to see if he would have called. You were being a stalker but you can't have a relationship if one person refuses to communicate. Find a new bf this one is not it.

Answer 5

No, sounds like he already dumped you but didnt have the guts to tell you.Or you the question you asked must have really hit a nerve.Chances are he was wanting sex and after 2 weeks when he didnt get it, he gave up and moved on.Also, have a little pride and dignity, when a guy acts like this jerk, dont call him 20 times like an emotionally needy beggar.Tell him "you know my number when youre adult enough to talk".If he never calls, then you didnt miss anything good.

Answer 6

Calling someone 20 times OUCH! What are you thinking? Especially to call a man that many times when most of them are not phone people anyway. Listen, the damage has been done. Whatever dumb question you asked him that scared him off was bad enough, but, to stalk him like that just made sure its over.

Men don't like desperate women. Face it, you wouldn't have liked that either. Maybe you had a chance in the beginning before your neurosis took over.

It's done, let it go. Learn from it and PLEASE don't repeat it again in another relationship. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's the reality of it.

Answer 7

It was a combination. No-one wants to deal with a stalker or a psycho, and calling someone like 10x or 20x is considered stalker behaviour.
As for contacting him...NO NO NO...leave him be, he doesn't want to be bothered. Find someone who WANTS a relationship with you.

Answer 8

I think you should give up on this guy. NEXT TIME THIS HAPPENS.... Play it cool and ignore HIM! When he texts and calls, Dont answer. By calling him and texting him all the time, you are giving HIM all the power, and making yourself look needy. So Dont do that anymore. Good luck

Answer 9

He's not acting mature and that's the explanation for his behavior. As hard as it might be, I would have no more contact with him. He is just whipping your emotions around by being inconsistent with his behavior. I wouldn't waste my time with this one. Just move on knowing you deserve better treatment and respect than that!

Answer 10

Give up he is not interested. Cant you take a hint. You shouldnt have asked the stupid question whatever that wasso yeah thats probably what ran him off.