i asked my boyfriend why we havent had sex yet and he finally admitted to me that he "contracted" something. that freaked me out but i tried to hide that it scared me because i didnt want to hurt his feelings, later in conversation it came up that there isnt a cure for it yet. i dont know what he has and i dont know how to ask. he asked me if it would be a problem and i changed the subject because its a lot to think about. what could it be and what would you do? if he has something but there is a way i can avoid getting it then maybe i will try to work something out with him. my heart hurts a lot, i really care for him, i don't want to break up with him. i dont want to punish him for being honest with me. i don't know what to do. please help
thanks a lot.
2007-03-09 05:33:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to lay down the law with your guy. He owes it to you to disclose what it is he has. It could be something that is problematic like herpes or life threatening like aids. If he doesn't tell you, you leave. If he tells you, you need to decide what's best for you
2007-03-09 05:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-05-01 02:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bernarr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Since you care for him so much there you wouldnt have to think about whetther or not to break up with him or stay by his side! The other problem is you didnt tell him that you were scared about whatever he contracted! Did you ask him what it was? Is he getting treatment like he is supposed to? If sex is that important to you then maybe you should just be his friend that way you wouldnt have to leave his side. Maybe you should find someone else.
2007-03-09 05:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most common one is herpes. There are treatments, but not a cure. He needs to level with you so you can go to the doctor's visits with him. If he can't talk about it, it means he doesn't trust you yet.
2007-03-09 05:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
care for him the same you are now. he is a real good guy if he is able to tell you a truth like that. look besides what he told you an find another way to get pleased. but you got a good guy stay by his side because you might not find another good person like him.
2007-03-09 05:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by mexica mami 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very, very, very careful... Std's and Sti's are nothing to be taken lightly.. If it was me, - Honestly, I would leave, but thats just me.. Definitly just talk to him open about it and be very, ver, very careful when u decide to eventually have sex with him.. Be sure that he is safe first.. But I would leave.
2007-03-09 05:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Point 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He either has Herpes, or HIV.
either way... unless you want to risk getting it... I'd break up with him.
2007-03-09 05:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably genital herpes and yes, there is no cure.
2007-03-09 05:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋