ive seen with my bf for a month and a half(im 20,hes 24)We live about a half hour away and he doesnt drive,only i do.im getting REALLY frustrated with the amount of time we spend together.last sat,i saw him but we were out at a bar,sunday we went ATVing with all his buddies.on tues i saw him,with his parents.i feel like we NEVER spend any time alone.I asked him to hang out last night but he said he was too tired i told him how i feel about this and he keeps saying i shouldnt feel that way and to just 'chill'.the fact that its like pulling teeth to see him and that were never alone make me feel like he doesnt care about me.he said that his friend sees his gf once a week and they have a perfect relationship,and when i asked him if he'd be ok with seeing me 1 a week he said yes.i think that is rediculous!!especially for a new relationship.he hasnt had a gf in 2 years so should i give him more time/space?how should i handle this,should i act distant back?I dont want to just break up!
2007-03-09 05:31:47 · 18 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he young and immature maybe you should leave him and find someone who is a lil older and a lot more mature and ready for a real relationship
2007-03-09 05:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to remember that guys need time with their friend. Don't brake up as of yet. He told you he has not had a girlfriend in two years. Yes I know it can be frustrating, but in the same token: What if he was the one doing this to u??? How would u feel??? After a while it get tier some. Give Ur self a chance for him to miss u. Stop being so available to him. Go out with Ur friend and have fun u r so young there is plenty of time for all that it will come. Trust me I been there b4.
He will see the change and he will want to spend time with u.
Give him the chance to be the man in the relationship let him look for u. I hope this help u.....
2007-03-09 05:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all if he's OK with only seeing you once a week, there's red flag # 1. As for his friend's relationship, it should have no bearing whatsoever on how he handles your relationship, thus red flag # 2. I'd say start distancing yourself, if he's into you he'll come callin', and if it's not more than once a week, first tell him to chill then ......... red flag # 3.....See ya! A new relationship would be not being able to get enough of each other, not the "needing space thing" already! No wonder he's not had a girlfriend in 2 years. Unfortunately he sounds a bit disinterested, in you and your feelings. You deserve better! Good Luck!
2007-03-09 05:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since woman mature faster than men, It makes sense that he would answer your question like that. However it really depends on you, can you wait for him? Do you really want to wait for him, and are you secure in the relationship enough to give him space if that is what he needs. You know they say, " If you love them let them go, If they come back it was meant to be". So its probably not that he doesn't care he might not know how to show it or he thinks if he does that he won't look as manly in the eyes of others. Either way the choice ends up being yours. You ultimately have to live with your decision.
2007-03-09 05:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by arshaun2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for a new relationship it doesn't sound like he's to interested. Why not break up he sounds like he could care less. He's to tired to hang out with you alone. Doesn't make sense to me maybe I'm old-fashioned. But all those other activities sounded tiring just reading it. He couldn't spend alone time with you which could have just been watching tv or talking. That's what ridiculous. This is new, you could find someone who does want to spend time with you. You're young go out have fun. Why should you do all that dring just be with his friends?
2007-03-09 05:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by momseekinganswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww hun that is difficult when they live so far away. When my fiancee and i stared dating he lived 1 hr away and it made if difficult to see eachother..plus he worked 12 hour shifts (so we pretty much only saw eachother on the weekends..)
Your BF might just want more 'guy time' so when he wants that plan a night out with your girls..... maybe try to make plans with him a week in advance. tell him that this sunday you would like to do this and see what he says. Don't act distant back towards him- that will only make things worse. Just give him his space and time and hopefully he will come around- if not then maybe it is time you move on..
2007-03-09 05:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question is why at 24 he has no car? Does he have a job? Does he live with his parents?
With the info you've given sounds like you need to set down and talk to him, if you don't get the answers your looking for, then get up kiss his forehead turn around and tell him to kiss your @ss good bye, because you need a man, a real man, not some teenager
2007-03-09 05:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is give him time and space.Men like the thrill of chase and let him chase you.Never appear too needy.That's a big turn off.You dont have to appear distant but let him put efforts to get to meet you.You just move on with your life.Let that desire to meet you alone generate in him spontaneously.You can achieve that by letting him miss you for a while.
2007-03-09 05:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my ex (first gf by the way) would be lucky to see each other once a week, and we went out for 10 months. Its certainly possible to be happy this way.
And in case you were wondering, that was'nt the reason why we broke up.
2007-03-09 05:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds quite immature about relationships.
but if he is bringing you out with friends and family that means he likes you enough to involve you in his life. instead of saying lets spend time alone try making a date with him to do a couple activity. that way you get the time alone without it being an "issue".
2007-03-09 05:37:22 · answer #11 · answered by pink orchid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋