I married my highschool sweety and we have been together for 15 years. Well she decided to have an affair at work and stay with her new man. We divorced last year. I have never been on a date exept with her. I'm 33 6'2 and my family and friends say I'm very good looking. I'm also in good shape. But I don't know what to expect now days. I'm not looking for sex I actually liked being in a commited long term relationship . Any help?
2007-03-09 05:29:14 · 8 answers · asked by The best I can do 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like a great guy. Go to singles functions, ask friends if they know nice girls, just be out to expose yourself more to the other singles out there. And I know it's hard, but put aside your fears of rejection and just Go For It! If you see someone you might be interested in, get in there and strike up a conversation! But be honest and say what is true, such as "Hi, I'm John, you are a very pretty girl, do you live in this area? .... Would you be interested in meeting for coffee some time?"
2007-03-09 05:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by bernadette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually like your second chance to date, so have fun with it. It's not a good idea to look for a commitment right from the start because gold diggers signal in on it and will use or hurt you. And age does not matter, you can still be 33 (which isn't all that old) and still go on movie or bowling dates.
The main thing to keep in mind is not to put all your past baggage on a new person- it's not fair to her or you.
Some tips on asking a girl out: Ask early in the week but do not expect an answer right away. Be light and fun hearted. And since your new on the scene, do not force a kiss at the end of the night. While you are on your date, talk about fun things and ask her questions every now and then so she knows that you are assertive. At the end again, do not say "Well, when can we hook up again". Say goodnight and maybe later on in the night or the next day send a cute text message.
Good Luck...
2007-03-09 13:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared to date. It can be a lot of fun. Women will love you because you are not the typical guy just trying to get laid. Because you say you are wanting a commited long term relationship though, I am worried you may jump at the first one. Date around, meet all females types, enjoy the differences in each one, and then make your decision.
2007-03-09 13:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Others will either like you or not...dating isn't some mystical thing, it's simply relating to another person. You've made friends in the past 15 years, haven't you? Well, dating is a lot like that except with the idea that this kind of friend may be someone you'd also want to be intimate with at some point.
Don't be scared to date...look forward to the opportunity to meet new people. âº
2007-03-09 13:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just go out and meet people. Don't think about "dating" per say, but meeting people. Make friends. Don't presure yourself to find a date or "get back into the dating thing". Just let whatever happens happen and eventually you'll meet someone you really click with and you'll know what to do from there.
2007-03-09 13:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by bluestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to get and go out their!...you may not know this but their alot of women looking for guys who wanna settle down and take it slow ..not rush to sex like you said....A guy like you could get the best of the best, sweetest nice women u have to do at leas half the work to find the right girl though all's you have to do is get out their more and aproch the women an ask for them to accompine you at dinner...and they'll do their part (50%) good luck!
2007-03-09 13:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by peppermint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be scared, try to find the right person and make sure you feel comfy with her, take it slowly and try to get over your ex, thats whats probably made you feel like this, learn to trust peopple some more and things might work out, try opening your eyes into places you wouldnt think of you may fid someone, someone very unexpected. could be a girl best friend? ect...
2007-03-09 13:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by gerrard4life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what you want then do it . i suggest going to asia and finding a girl there there much more loyal
2007-03-09 13:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by aggadan 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋